Preschool Drama

[LilLegs]

The first two days of preschool for Clayton was fine.  No tears at all!  I was amazed, but happy about how smoothly it went.  Well, day three he had "snack day" where he had to bring in a snack to share with the class and was "leader" for the day.  I was a little worried since he was going to be the first child with these privilages.  I was afraid he might not understand what was going on or what he was supposed to do and get frustrated since he was the first to do the special leader things. 

Unfortunatly I was right.  His teacher came and talked to me after school and told me that he had a meltdown that morning when he was supposed to do his special things.  I was glad the day was done and that the next preschool day would be better for him.  Not my luck.  He is excited to go to school, but screams and cries when I have to leave.  I'm so frustrated and sad, I thought things were going smoothly and now this.  I thought tears were supposed to happen on day one! 

Today, I talked to him before we left and told him he was going to school and I was going to give him a ride and pick him up later.  He repeated what I said and told me he understood, but when we got there and his teachers came out to get him, we had another scream fest.  I had to take him from the car and walk him to the door with him holding on to me for dear life.  Then I had to pry him off of me and walk away. 

Any tricks on how to make this easier?

 

 

[4xmomof5]

My son loves his new school. My mom and I alternate taking and picking him up. We have now gotten into the routine of taking him for a special treat after school (he gets a small bottle of his favorite juice) he loves it. He has something to look forward to after he is done. He has liked school since it started but we thought this would add to some one on one time for him.
Maybe this will work for your son if you have a special activity after each school day. I also make a point to get very excited when I ask about his day.
Hopefully it will smooth out for him soon.

[cgarlic]

The first week my daughter was fine, then the second week she was hysterical every time I dropped her off.  She just finished her third week and she was fine.  Her father and I take turns picking her up.  Her bonus is that she knows when her daddy picks her up on Tuesday she goes to dance class.  The first time she cried I almost cried too and the worst part is I work at her preschool (diff. class).  You just have to let them go and they will calm down on their own.  Example, I have a four yr old in one of my classes that cries when his mother drops him off and as soon as she is out the room he is fine, then he is hysterical when she picks him up becasue he doesnt want to leave.  Children arent afraid that you wont come back, there just afraid of change.

[zpsemommy]

I think this is normal. I have seen it with my own kids, as well as with other children. When we went to preschool, they would get all excited, then realize that mommy won't be there with them, and it's scary. The best remedy that I've seen is to be firm that it's time for you to go so that he can enjoy his class. I don't mean harsh, just that you don't need a 15 minute rouine of hugs, kisses, and cuddling. After a few weeks, he'll be more comfortable and will not throw as many tantrums. It's developmental, since he wants independance, but also wants to have you near at all times. Don't feel guilty, though. He needs to be able to adjust to new situations, even if you aren't there.

I hope it helps!!! Put on a brave face when you leave, smile, make sure he thinks that school is the best thing ever and he's lucky that he gets to have so much fun. He'll catch on.

Love, Lexa 

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