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Posted by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 2:35 PM
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Ok so the father of my child is black. I am white. Just a little fyi my daughter is 8 weeks old. He did not come around until she was 6 weeks old. He made an assumption and now I wonder what you mothers do. He claims I am only allowing her around my family (meaning white people he stated). That is untrue I have different race of friends. Of course Im not gonna say ok you can take her now even though you havent been in the picture for the entire pregnancy nor the beginning of her life. As soon as he came around I took her to meet some of his family as he wished but he acts like he doesnt understand why he cant just take her alone making it out that Im keeping her from his side. I told him his family could have came to the hospital and seen her and been there as my family has been through all of this and NOT to bring race in this. So it got me thinking do you guys if you are single have any of these issues. My friend had told me to start buying black and white dolls. I will do that so she can see but I feel I can only teach her what I know and that is his job to teach her what he knows. Of course it doesnt happen over night and I wouldnt just let her go with him at 7 weeks old and I dont know his family. I will go with him yes but he thinks its that i want her only around my family. Help please. I want her to know all about her! Both sides but it takes him being there ALL the time as a father.

by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 2:35 PM
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egurl85
by New Member on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:32 PM

BUMP!

agggy
by on Apr. 14, 2011 at 4:22 PM
Race dosnt matter the guy is just a jerk did not come around the whole pregnancy and suddenly expects you to give him your baby? I would not let that happen. First he needs to prove that he is worthy to even be around your daughter and then you together could meet his family. In future when she is older they might spend time alone if you approve and feel confortable. And it doesn't mean that you have to deny her fathers side in her. She will make a choice when she is old enough.
Good luck :)
egurl85
by New Member on Apr. 14, 2011 at 5:36 PM

thanks sooo very much!

kaylan3
by on May. 15, 2011 at 8:37 AM
Why does the color card always have to come out? Girl you are mom you are doing what is right. So far he has donated so sperm make him earn anything more then that. Your daughter needs to be comfortable with her skin and knows her color is ok what else matters?
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