This weekend I was surrounded by family and friends who supported my husband and me. Thinking back to our experience at the hospital, everyone we encountered was nice, but there was one thing missing. We did not receive any emotional support before we left. Having been employed at the hospital where we had the procedure done, I know that there are social workers always on staff to help with grieving families, and yet we were allowed to leave without any question about our emotional state. We were not told about any support groups, not referred to anyone to talk to if we had questions, not even told what emotions we may experience later. We were just told we were done and to take our time leaving.
Where any of you left like this? Do anyone else not have any support from the hospital? I feel like they thought I was there for a flue shot and not loseing a baby?
We were not given any support either and since mine was an outpatient procedure, we were kinda rushed out of the hospital.
When I had my Ectopic in 2009 I was so devistated and in a ton of pain. I was put in the PostPartum unit which was very distressing to me hearing crying babies! And no support was offered what so ever! Not even a priest and it was a Catholic hospital!
With my miscarriage last Novemeber the nurses were great! I had gone to the hospital that evening and the baby passed while I was still there but the placenta had not. The doc sent me home anyways. By the time I got home and into the house I had lost conciousness from bloodloss and had to be taken back to the hosptial by ambulance. My OB came in the next morning to see if I was going to need a D&C and he sat with me for about 45 mins talking to me. But not once was I offered grief counseling or visited by a social worker! I truly believe that hospitals and physicians really need to make sure that woman who lose a pregnancy no matter what stage need to make sure that women are visited at least once by a grief counselor! I never went in for my 2 week check-up! I had started lactating that morning and it was just so upsetting! Im not one for crying in public either so I just didnt go!
I did get a phone call from the hospital a few months later asking me to do a survey on my stay! I was like seriously I lost a baby and I am don't want to do a survey on that!
It saddens me to know I wasn't alone in how we were treated. Mandyjh, it's nice to know that you were given support. Did the hospital not give you the option of interring your baby on your own or was that a choice you made? I know that my mother was not given the option 25 years ago, but my friend was this year.
I got none. The hospital didn't even initially discover the ectopic pregnancy when I went in for an ultrasound b/c I was bleeding so bad that I suspected I'd miscarried. I ended up in the ER a week later with severe side pains, and an ultrasound to check for speculated kidney infection found the tubal pregnancy. I had surgery right after. I got the usual statistic statemtents that I didn't care to hear.. "Oh you can still conceive with one tube... You only stand a 10% chance of another ectopic... You'll be fine." No, I won't be fine. And that 10% chance is huge to me if the odds were against me in the first place to end up with an ectopic pregnancy after trying for so long for the child that my Husband and I so desperately wanted... I understand what you meant about your hospital experience, TStripes, I felt the same way.
the hospital i went to for both of my ectopics (8-24-07- right tube) and (11-16-08-left tube) was St. John's in st. louis, they were wonderful. however i was placed in the postpardum floor, so yes it was hard to see all the babies. However they had a nun (its a catholic hospital), and special r.n and a priest come in if i wanted to talk to them. They also had this little sign on my door it had the blue and pink ribbon on it, they did that so some of the nurses that didnt know what was going on, would know not to ask if i wanted my baby from the nursery, they would know that is was a mother's room that just had a loss. They sent me home with a blue/pink/yellow baby pillow with a beautiful poem inside of it. also with alot of papers about my surgeries. We had the choice of letting the hospital have the babies and put them in their own grave yard with a big angel statue were they put all the "angel babies" or if we wanted to burry them with our local funeral home and grave site, which is what we did. I have no tubes now, so the only way to get pregnant now is through i.v.f, which is what we are looking into.
no, i didn't get anything any of my times either. at least i wasn't put into a mat.. ward. then really would have lost it. only thing i left the hosp with last time was a massive staph infec. that took almost 3months to heal from and horrible scars, and time prior to that was busted gut stitches when the nurse didn't set the wheel chair seat.
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2 ectopics and just had tube removed
- TStripes
on Nov. 6, 2011 at 6:46 PM