My daurghter will be 3 in June and I dont want to spank or anything cause i think she is still to young for that, but does she have a tempe she throws things, bite and hit other people if she doesnt get her way if anyone could help me out on how to disapline her. Let me know
Thanks,
shanna
Thanks,
shanna
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on Mar. 31, 2007 at 5:15 AM
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on Mar. 31, 2007 at 2:38 PM
This may sound silly but it was really one of the best pieces of advice I got on disciplining the 3ish age and it worked wonders for my boys. Of course, I am now learning that the girls can be WAY more emotional about things, but it might be worth a shot.
In situations where I could sense trouble rising, I would offer them a choice of two things. For instance, they don't want to put their pjs on. I would tell them that they could either decide to put their pjs on or sleep w/o them on and be cold. If they decided to go w/o, so be it. Or if they are acting out really bad, I would tell them they had the choice to stop behaving in such a fashion or they would lose say Bob the Builder that day. That way they get to decide how they behave. It takes the burden off of you being the "bad guy." And they learn to deal with their consequences, which of course is their choice. It can be used in many different contexts, not just discipline.
I think that a lot of temper tantrums are an effort to gain control of situations and the frustration they experience when they realize control is difficult to come by at 3. Not sure if my examples were spot on, but hopefully you get what I was trying to shoot for. Let me know if I made sense and if you think it might work for you. Hope all is well in Jordan. I have been offline for over 3 days and I was going nuts. Back on now, YEA!
In situations where I could sense trouble rising, I would offer them a choice of two things. For instance, they don't want to put their pjs on. I would tell them that they could either decide to put their pjs on or sleep w/o them on and be cold. If they decided to go w/o, so be it. Or if they are acting out really bad, I would tell them they had the choice to stop behaving in such a fashion or they would lose say Bob the Builder that day. That way they get to decide how they behave. It takes the burden off of you being the "bad guy." And they learn to deal with their consequences, which of course is their choice. It can be used in many different contexts, not just discipline.
I think that a lot of temper tantrums are an effort to gain control of situations and the frustration they experience when they realize control is difficult to come by at 3. Not sure if my examples were spot on, but hopefully you get what I was trying to shoot for. Let me know if I made sense and if you think it might work for you. Hope all is well in Jordan. I have been offline for over 3 days and I was going nuts. Back on now, YEA!
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