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Have you Had an Abortion, symptoms of post Abortion stress and depression.

Posted by on Sep. 9, 2007 at 1:07 PM
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Are You Suffering from Post-Abortion Stress?

If you have had an abortion(s), you may be suffering from post-abortion stress.  Answering the following questions can help you figure out how the abortion(s) may have effected your life.

Do you find yourself struggling to turn off feelings or memories related to your abortion(s)? Do you need to keep reminding yourself to just forget it or put it behind you?

Do you become uncomfortable around reminders of the abortion, such as being around babies, pregnant women, doctor's offices, or when hearing news reports about abortion?

Do you feel nervous or anxious at the idea of telling a loved one about your abortion? Is your abortion a secret that is holding you back from greater intimacy with others?

When you do choose to share your abortion experience with others, are you overcome with strong feelings such as anger, sorrow, grief, or guilt?

Do you have trouble talking about the abortion issue as a political issue? When you do talk about it, do you find it hard to respect opposing views, or do you becoming overly emotional, either in support of or opposition to it?

Do you have an unhealthy sense of fear that you, your loved ones, or your other children will be hurt or killed? Are you "smothering" or overly protective of your children?

Do you tend to look at life in terms of "before" and "after" the abortion(s)? Has the abortion changed the way you look at yourself? Are there traits about your "self" before the abortion that you lost but would wish to regain in your life? Do you become angry or depressed more easily?

Have you experienced "reconnectors" to your abortion, such as nightmares, flashbacks, or hallucinations, such as hearing a baby cry?

Was there a period after your abortion when you experienced an increase in the use of alcohol or drugs (illegal or prescription)? Have you experienced other forms of emotional deadening?

Have you experienced any suicidal thoughts? Do you take risks that put your life in danger? Do you try to hurt yourself? Have you developed any eating disorders?

Have you lost interest in taking care of yourself? Do you care about how you look? Have you tried to become less attractive to avoid the risk of becoming involved in a relationship, love, and sex?

Do you have trouble with finding, building, or maintaining good relationships with people of the opposite sex? Do you have trouble with issues of trust and control? Do you get involved in hurtful or abusive relationships? Do you tolerate abuse because you don't feel you deserve any better?

Is there an increased distance between you and your parents or siblings because of the past abortion(s)? Is there tension between you and others because the abortion is something everyone avoids talking about?

Have you lost the desire for sexual intercourse? Do you have increased pain during intercourse? Have you become promiscuous because of low self-esteem? Have you lost your desire to have children?

Do you experience periods of depression, heightened anxiety, or cramping during certain months of the year, particularly during the months that would correspond to the month of your abortion(s) or the due date of the aborted pregnancy?

Have you lost your faith? Have you lost a sense of God's peace? Do you think God still loves you? Are you afraid of God? Have your rejected belief in God for emotional reasons rather than thoughtful reasons?

If you are experiencing any of the above problems, post-abortion counseling may help. Skilled and understanding people want to help. Many have been through the same things you are going through now. There are many post-abortion counselors and support groups, often run by women who have had abortions, who can help you find out how to deal with your experience.

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A prayer for you...
( May God assist these woman in healing, and take good care of their babies. Babies pray for your Mothers as they need you to be with them,  I know you have forgiven them.) Amen

After Abortion Healing:

This link is to a site for woman who have had an abortion or are considering having one, find out from woman who have had an abortion the truth! Their experiences and how they feel now.

"The Silent No More campaign gives a voice to women who have too long been ignored. Pro-life and pro-choice can agree: abortion is a tragedy, and women deserve better choices."

-- Author and Feminist Frederica Matthews-Green

This campaign creates a safe place for women to break their silence about the pain of abortion. It is an honor to speak the truth and let others know they’re not alone.

-- Jennifer O'Neill, National Spokeswoman for the Silent No More Awareness Campaign


by on Sep. 9, 2007 at 1:07 PM
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by New Member on Oct. 5, 2007 at 7:55 PM
by New Member on Oct. 22, 2007 at 2:34 AM
send me a message if you want someone to talk to, or just prayer even.
by New Member on Oct. 23, 2007 at 10:57 PM
Yes I have.  In fact, i know of a person who has an appointment for abortion on tuesday.  Even though I have my own experiences, I will write my own experiences here soon.  It has been over 2 years since and I am still battling much more besides the abortion.   Please be patient with me.  This is a really difficult subject for me to talk about. 
by Group Owner on Oct. 25, 2007 at 3:10 AM
I can only imagine how difficult it is to talk about it but if your story can save a Woman and her baby, also helping yourself because it is good to get it out, if you need to talk message me if you would like.

The after affects of abortion are very serious and it is the killing of a child's life and in many cases the mothers life as well.

by New Member on Oct. 28, 2007 at 10:16 PM
I just want to say, as a female who has had an abortion, who has an open opinion, that it takes time for me personally to talk about my experience.  I am a single parent of two other children, who graduated with my first bachelors degree in American Indian Studies at Haskell in Lawrence KS and who is now getting a degree in elementary edu at the University of KS.  I am in therapy right now, but not just for the abortion.  I hope to post often.  First of all, i am not trying to step on anyones' toes. 
by New Member on Apr. 8, 2008 at 2:20 PM
It will take time. This is something that you will need emotional healing from. I volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center and they offer a PAS study called PACE I would suggest going through one of those eventually even with the therapy. Let yourself not be ok. you need to grieve your loss. Let me know if anything I said is out of line for you.
Sassy Cassie
by on Jun. 5, 2008 at 12:34 PM
I am someone who has also had an abortion, but I have gone through counseling through a crisis pregnancy clinic and would be glad to talk to anyone who wants to talk through it.  I also recommend the study, "Forgiven and Set Free."  That's the study I went through.


"I don't claim to have found the truth but I know it has found me."  Sara Groves

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