My hubby and I have been talking about this for awhile. I have a 5 y/o who will be starting kindergarden this August 2009 and just had my second daughter who is now 3 weeks old. We've been talking that I will stay home for the next year and a half to take care of our newborn and also to be able to put our 5 y/o in half day kindergarden and then maybe when she is 6 and starting first grade I will look into going back to work if it suits us at that time. Things are tight with me not working and hubby is working two jobs but we are enjoying me being home with both kids. But my mother seems to think I should be ready to go back to work and send the kids to daycare or a home sitter once my youngest is around 3 months. I think it's pointless for me to go back to work so soon since we would have to pay for 2 kids (one being an infant which is expensive) to go into daycare and then on top of the daycare cost we would have to pay the additional costs of putting my 5 y/o in kindergarden full time which is like $2,000 extra for the year since here where I live it is only required they go half day. So, my hubby and I have figured out that if I go back to work so soon that we would be spending my whole pay check on daycare cost pretty much. But my mother seems to think me having a job and spending my whole paycheck on daycare is better off than me not working at all. Just wondering what others opinions are on this? And if you would like to give me advice on how to approach my mother with my wishes so she stops bugging me about that would be great too cause my mother is very one sided on this issue and I don't want to argue with her but I want to do things my own way since I'm 23 almost 24 years old.