I am a bit of a deliama. I am to be induced next Tuesday if I don't go into labor on my own this weekend. My sister and mother are coming in to town tomorrow night but my sister is only here for the weekend. I/we were hoping doctor would induce me sooner, as like Friday. So that would live my mom and husband at home with my three kids, 5 yr old (autistic), 3yr old and 1 1/2. Well now that its not going to happen until Tuesday, I will be doing the delivery alone for this reason. My mil who usually watches the kids all of a sudden has issues with watching them, (with the 1 1/2-mommy boy), my mom knows them but doesn't know them because they only see her once a year due to living in another state. I don't mind my mom watching my kids but I worry about her and my oldest, he is going threw this stage were he thinks he is an animal at times and turns violent against people. Me and hubby know how to deal with it but others don't and some think "its cute" and its just him "being a boy". (Don't want to deal with the fact that he has autism.) So I don't want to put my mom threw that, so hubby is staying home to help my mom. This is my question, do you find your self only letting certain people watch your children because you know what can happen and what issues (I hate using that word) can come up with your autistic child(ren). I am just so worried about my oldest, to the point I am not even really worried about the labor and delivery. I know how he can get and it has be scared. Please some one tell me it is normal, I have been learning and figuring things our for a little over a year and still not done with all the testing that is required let alone getting all the help I need for him. Some one please tell me I am not crazy.
NO, you are NOT crazy. My son is now 8, high funtioning but as he grew older he became more aggressive and had some self-control/impulsivity issues that would frighten people and be unsafe for him and others. We recently moved and although he has been doing better with biometrics I am still leery of leaving him AND his sister with my in-laws (we moved here three months ago). I have just qualified for respite care 16 hours per month and that means his sister can go to in-laws house and respite can handle him (certified nurse, trained in autism). However, other times he is with me (his father is deployed active duty military) and that is that. It is difficult. Of course, there are TWO capable adults to watch the children. One to be one-on-one with your son if need be and then the other can watch the other two. Shame your MIL changed her mind but if your son did become violent and aggressive would she know what to do and how to keep eth situation from escalating? You need to take care of You and that wee baby in there. Before you know it you will be home again with your family. There is Hope and you are Never alone. May you be at peace with your decision and have a stress free, easy labor and a healthy, happy baby! Good luck pet!
Thank you for replying back and letting me knwo that I am not crazy. My son is high fucntioning as well. The weird thing is that he doesn't get violet at my MIL, he does it when he is around people he dont know or know that well-my mother. So that is why I have chose to do the delivery alone so hubby can stay home with my mom and that kids. I don't mind doing it alone but of course at the same time I want him there. I am keeping in mind what is safer for my kids and family. Thank you again.
Quoting mousireid:
NO, you are NOT crazy. My son is now 8, high funtioning but as he grew older he became more aggressive and had some self-control/impulsivity issues that would frighten people and be unsafe for him and others. We recently moved and although he has been doing better with biometrics I am still leery of leaving him AND his sister with my in-laws (we moved here three months ago). I have just qualified for respite care 16 hours per month and that means his sister can go to in-laws house and respite can handle him (certified nurse, trained in autism). However, other times he is with me (his father is deployed active duty military) and that is that. It is difficult. Of course, there are TWO capable adults to watch the children. One to be one-on-one with your son if need be and then the other can watch the other two. Shame your MIL changed her mind but if your son did become violent and aggressive would she know what to do and how to keep eth situation from escalating? You need to take care of You and that wee baby in there. Before you know it you will be home again with your family. There is Hope and you are Never alone. May you be at peace with your decision and have a stress free, easy labor and a healthy, happy baby! Good luck pet!
You are NOT alone! I will only let my mom watch my son unless I am in a desperate situation. My dad & my sister have watched him before, but when I get him back it is major hell to pay. He's completely out of control no matter what I threaten him with. Although my mom can't handle him in public as well as I can, she does a great job managing his mood swings & behavior problems.
full time ABA clinic looking to open in Corpus Christi,Texas?
- tonisalex
on Nov. 18, 2009 at 6:24 PM