My dh and I have been married almost 10 years and have 4 great kids. My dh suffers from anxiety and is most likely bipolar.. (it's been suggested by a therapist, but he won't persue it any further). He frequently gets into moods where he won't do anything and that things just aren't working out in life and finds someone to blame it on, usually me. Every little thing turns into a battle to prove that I love him and can be trusted. Every little detail from our past comes up time and time again. The accusations he can come up with during his rants are completely outlandish. I can't imagine how he can think some of these things up. Bringing things up after the fact is completely useless, because he'll never say he's sorry or admit that what he said really hurt me. So I've just been letting things go.. over and over again.
Well, I just wanted to say how nice it is to find a place I can chat with other woman who are experiencing similiar situations.
i know how u feel for the last year my hubby is the same i keep telling him he needs to go to the docter but he wopnt go to stubbered.he gets mad at little things and stars yelling and im the one he lahes out at.and everyday seems like a battle about nothing.his mom has bipolar and i believe he has it also.i have a 6 year old and i believe he has alot of temper tantrums cause he wayches my husband ,im glad im not alone in this situation.
So, I'm at the end of my rope.. He got his degree in may and has honestly sat around the house doing nothing all summer. Last night we got into a fight, bc i left the kids at home instead of taking them to daycare because I was running late for work. He was pissed at everyone in the house and I just couldn't take it and I got pissed. He should be taking the kids to daycare and picking them up instead of sleeping all day. Yeah I was yelling and even spit in his face after he pushed me down, but then he just got more violent. This is not the first time that I've tried to hold my ground and it's turned violent. I can't tip toe around him anymore. Of course, everything is my fault and he is making threats about moving out once he finds a job, but what do I do??? I still love him... And I know he's just blowing smoke about moving out.. wanting me to apologize..
Wow, hun I'm sorry things are getting worse. Things are getting bad here too... but violence is a good reason to kick his ass out. I don't know how, but I sure hope you find a way through it. HUGS! I'm not sure what else to say, besides I'm really sorry. My husband hasn't done much this summer either, and it kills me to do EVERYTHING around here when he sleeps
This place is really nice to come to and vent. It has been a blessing to me. When my husband is depressed.: This summer has been going well. He's gotten down at least once and it didn't last long. I still do everything, but I can deal with it as long as he's not depressed. School starts soon and our son is starting preschool and also going to an enrichment program provided at the school. So our son will be at school all day everyday at the same place I work. My husband won't have to deal with him during the day. I hope it helps with his depression this school year. However, he's told me that he's worried about the well being of our son. I know the transition is going to be hard for him, but I think that this is what's best for our son. Who knows maybe this change will open a whole new can of worms, but I"m hopeing it will be good for us all.
I really needed to find a place where women understand. I've been married for 33 years. Hubby was diagnosed at 17 with bipolar 2, then in the past couple of years they've changed it to PTSD. I don't know what his diagnosis is anymore. :( I just know he's losing it. He seems to get worse by the day. His psychiatrist is totally useless, sertiously. He's seen quite a few in the past 33 years and this one is a joke, but hubby won't leave him ... sigh. Right now the only med he's on is librium to mellow him - doesn't work. He's on lots of pain meds for spine damage and of course he's not taking them right which doesn't help. But I love him and want to stay together and I just want to "fix" him and I can't. I don't know what to do anymore. He gets so loud and nasty even the dogs get frightened. And he says the cruelest things and totally justifies his behavior because he has a "problem". So glad I found you all but sorry there are so many of you going through the same hell.
"The ultimate test of a moral society is the kind of world that it leaves its children." - Dietrich Bonhueffer
I'm so glad I found this group tonight! My hubby suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury in 2005 that is finally beginning to heal and his memory and mood are improving. However he was diagnosed w/ ADD in HS but i thinks its bipolar. Glad to see others are out there!
ADD and bipolar can look so similar. My hubby's been diagnosed with both.
Quoting Ladywithtwo:
I'm so glad I found this group tonight! My hubby suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury in 2005 that is finally beginning to heal and his memory and mood are improving. However he was diagnosed w/ ADD in HS but i thinks its bipolar. Glad to see others are out there!
"The ultimate test of a moral society is the kind of world that it leaves its children." - Dietrich Bonhueffer
I need him to understand that now! I really don't know how though.
I don't know if anyone still gets on here, but I thought I'd let you know that things have completely boiled over here... Tues night, my husband started accusing me of things again. I tried my best to ignore him. Managed to get to sleep in my son's room. We didn't talk wed. He kept saying he wanted a divorce. Thurs, he mentioned counceling, but only because the kids were too young for us to get a divorce. that night he didn't take it too well, when i turned him down for sex. All the outlandish accusations started again. I ignored him for a while, but then finally called him a bastard (which is something he takes way too personnally because he's the offspring of a rape)...... well, he grabbed me by the throat and slammed me against the wall. There were atleast 4 times that I couldn't breath. I started calling for the kids and he let up and i was able to get out of the room. I called the cops. he was arrested. NOW WHAT DO I DO??? He's never seen a psychiatrist about bipolar... just a counselor told him that she thought he had it. I don't want this to be the end. I'm hoping this will cause him to get the help he needs.
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