Need help with husband who has Paranoia

[mochomo]

I don't know what to say other than my husband thinks the FBI are keeping tabs on him, and thinks that they are using me, his family and co-workers to keep tabs on him too. He is not taking his meds and drinks instead. He is now having to take DV classes and alcohol classes for loosing his control (no I was not hit, nor my son) he is not violent by nature. But I don't know how to tell him that he is also going to have to take his meds. I really think that would help him a lot. We have been together for 5yrs and married for 1

[Deb_Jones]

 I wish I had an answer for you. My hubby insists he doesn't need medication either. If things are really bad you could try an ultimatum, maybe him moving out? In the meantime .. pray. It will give you peace and maybe he'll let God touch his heart. It's actually the best thing we can do. My faith is all the keeps me sane in this craziness and we've been together 33 years! Lots of prayers!

[mochomo]

Thank you, my faith has grown much stronger due to all of this, I'm just growing tired and wishes that he would face the fact that this is what he needs to help our marriage.

[Deb_Jones]

 I constantly tell myself, "In God's time". Some days it's awfully hard to remember that.

Quoting mochomo:

Thank you, my faith has grown much stronger due to all of this, I'm just growing tired and wishes that he would face the fact that this is what he needs to help our marriage.

 

[Saprena]

I am going through something similar, but I must end my marriage. He must stop drinking and take his meds. My husband has psychosis added with depression and anxiety on a sever level. He was sober for 18 months and was away for training with the Army, well he did not come back my husband. Please find some way to either make him understand that drinking will lead to the loss of his family. My husband is now locked away in a mental facility because he once tried to commit suicide and talked of hurting me and the kids. Don't let your marriage issues go this far. Pray for help.

God bless

[Ladywithtwo]

I'm in a similar situation.  I was hoping someone on here would have had a good answer to help you but it sounds like we're all still trying to sort it out!

I'm sure my husband is bipolar.  He has PTSD and has had dr's suggest bipolar but he refuses to be evaluated for it.  I don't know what to do.  He's on an 'up' now and doing well so I'm scared that if I push the issue he'll spiral down again.  But living like this means I'm just waiting for the bottom to drop every day.

[mochomo]

Quoting Saprena:

I am going through something similar, but I must end my marriage. He must stop drinking and take his meds. My husband has psychosis added with depression and anxiety on a sever level. He was sober for 18 months and was away for training with the Army, well he did not come back my husband. Please find some way to either make him understand that drinking will lead to the loss of his family. My husband is now locked away in a mental facility because he once tried to commit suicide and talked of hurting me and the kids. Don't let your marriage issues go this far. Pray for help.

God bless

[mochomo]

The thing is, is that he has been locked up in a mental facility twice  before I even knew him, about 10yrs ago when he was in his late 20's. He hasn't been taking his meds for the past 5 yrs because he said he wants to feel normal, and he said that his meds dull his thoughts. His brother kicked him out of his house on Thursday. (We are separated because of domestic violence, no me and my son were not hit, he just threw and broke things in our house and he was staying at his brother's house) My husband's brother and I talk to each other about my husband's issues and try to come up with a solution to better help him because we both care. Then my husband flipped out and accused me and his brother of conspiring against him, and forbade me from ever talking to his brother about him, well that set his brother off and now his brother has washed his hands completely. I don't know what else to do..I really hope that he gets on his meds and pays attention to what his alcohol and domestic violence classes are trying to teach him..I do pray for help and I feel alone, my family wants me to divorce him and are not supportive when it comes to me praying for God to change him. He has paranoid schizophrenia, and I'm really dumb about this subject. I guess I need to educate myself on it more....

Thanks