My husband is in the hospital

[Lauriemom]

Wow. I cannot believe all that has happened. I am so stressed, overwhelmed, sad, you name it. 

My husband has suffered from crippling depression for years. It has gotten to a crisis level over the past several months.  He hasnt worked in almost 2 years. He is sleeping all the time, waking up early afternoon, playing video games on the computer for hours. It's awful. Well, over the past several weeks he's gotten to a point that he is not functioning, he is non responsive, and his affect has gone flat. He also has anxiety over leaving the house.  Now this is not 100 percent of the time, but it is more days than not. 

I ended up calling his mother, and sharing my concerns with her. Now I honestly hate to drag her  into our marriage, but I felt that he needed some intervention. So yesterday she came down to our house, and we spoke to him. She and I gave him an ultimatum: He was to get help, he was to get therapy and get up every single day and look for a job. He was to go to get an evaluation at the emergency room and follow whatever treatment plan they suggested.  If he did this, his mom would help us pay the rent this month, and help us financially with some other things we are struggling with. If he would not, he was to pack his bags and leave, because I needed to be able to at least have the option of going after him for child support.  Sound harsh?? Yep, it is, but I have tried EVERYTHING to get him to seek help, so he can be well and support his family.  This was my last ditch attempt to avoid having to split up our family

Well we went and the clinician was very much in favor of admitting him for in patient treatment immediately.  She did NOT commit him, she left the choice to him.  He accepted and is now in patient at a psych ward.  When I went to see him tonight, he  looked no better. He said the doctor perscribed him some medication, and he would begin it tonight. If the medication works  well and he improves, he should be discharged on Tuesday, after setting him up with a therapist and a psychiatrist. I do not think he'll be ready to leave by Tuesday, but we will see what the doctor's and the insurance company thinks. 

I do not think he has any idea about how this all affects me and the kids. It's almost like he feels inconvenience by not being able to sleep in his own bed and play video games right now!  He's upset I could not get to the hospital today before 6 pm. but I am at home with two kids, trying to clean up the mess left behind by this whole thing.  I finally found child care and was able to go.  GRRRR!!!!

Thanks for reading this long rant. I'm exhausted, and babbling by now

Laurie

[stefaniejane]

I'm rarely on CM anymore so I didn't see your post until just now. HUGS, mama! How are things going by now? Mine wouldn't hear me out but he is in the SAME state of mind as what you described. So I did leave. I had to. If you ever need anything let me know.

[Lauriemom]

Thank  you

He is home now and seems to be doing much better. He has a LONG way to go, but a lot has changed for the better!! he is looking for work and has given up his role playing game (I told him if he did decide to return to playing that paticular game I would file for divorce, no second chances on that one)

I'll keep you posted, it's good that you got out if he wouldn't change or seek help