treatment

[crzyfemme18]

My SO's Dr thinks that his having a relationship with me is a bad idea and that he should end it.  And that he should never be around kids.  Which is one of the reasons the Dr said he shouldnt be with me.  This depresses the hell out of me because I know he isnt going to leave me but if it is best for him and his treatment then I am going to have to leave him.  And that is going to crush him.  I don't know what to do. 

[lalalandlady]

get a second opinion.....as far as him saying that he shouldn't be around children, that is really scary.  if there is any chance at all that he would do something to harm your children...get them out yesterday!!!!

[crzyfemme18]

He isnt going to hurt kids. thats the thing.  there isnt a chance he would do that.  he went in because he has nightmares about it.  it scares him and depresses him.  i left my ex because i was afraid he might accidently hurt my son because he was a lazy ass.  there is no way i would let anyone around my son who might hurt him.  i just dont know.  he is trying to get into a different treatment center that is more specialized to this kind of thing.  i am going to see him tomorrow to get the rest of the story as to what the doctors said.  i am not scared about what they said about kids, i am just worried about leaving him, if that is whats best.  i want to wait until he goes to the other place to see what they say about it.  the hospital he is in now is a kind of temporary thing, for people to go when they are waiting to go other places.

[lalalandlady]

i would wait until you see another dr before making the decision to leave.  I am not you, so I am not trying to tell you what to do.  This is just my opinion.

[crzyfemme18]

I know.  And I appreciate the advice.  That is what i am going to do.  I know that if it really would be best for him not be with me i will leave him but it will crush both of us.  i really hope that the next doctor doesnt agree with it.  i just hate the waiting and wondering if i should or not.  but thank you for respnding

[Brandimusselman]

that is so messed up. i dont know why else the doc would tell him to leave you is it just because of the kids or something else. I hope that the second opinion is a little better for you guys. Good luck and let us know what they say.

[crzyfemme18]

Well i saw my SO today and we talked about it.  his doctor thinks he shouldnt be in a relationship with me because he unstable right now and he thinks he could get into a co dependant thing.  and the thing about kids is kind of the same reason.  because he went unstable (not from going of meds though) the drs think he might hurt someone too, and kids are vulnerable.  but they are adjusting his meds and he is feeling much better.  his dr also thinks that it is up to him what to decide.  his mother on the other hand is asking him "so have you told her you dont want to see her anymore?"  which is annoying to me.  but anyway.  he has been mostly stable lately, about a year ago i think they found a good combination of his meds to keep him stable, but one of them was on a very low dose.  they have upped the dose and he feels better and while he has been in the hospital he has been good.  so we think that might have been some of the problem.  i feel much better today.  i was freaking out before.  but we talked alot about it and spent alot of time together and things feel almost like they are back to normal. 

[Brandimusselman]

I'm glad things are going better for you I know it's hard when you are going through things like this. My hubby was in the hospital twice for about a week each and it was so hard. if you need or want to talk just message me anytime.

[crzyfemme18]

thanks.  right now it looks like he might be there another week or so.  and is looking into another treatment center.  he would be there for 6 to 12 weeks.  its just sad cause i wont be able to visit him there at all.  thank you guys for your support though.  it helps alot.

[mamajill]

Hope things are going well- humans need human contact- especially of those they love. When the docs approve it, be sure to share your appreciation and love :)
xoxo hugs to you!

[crzyfemme18]

thanks.  i try very hard to remind him how much i love him and that i am here for him when i talk to him on the phone.  and that i support him in whatever he choses for treatment to make himself better.    his treatment coordinator wants me to come in today for a seesion with them.  gave me no notice but i am going to get there somehow.  lol.