I just left a family gathering and while I was there I experienced what I feel was a verbal abuse. The reason I am posting this here is that the words came from my 2nd cousin towards her 8yr old son, who is adopted. This was a party for the boys grandfather and he was asked to hold up a sign for his grandfather to read and was being wiggly and faced the opposite direction and just a bit silly. All what I would consider pretty normal for an 8yr old boy. His mom got right in his face and very strongly asked him why are you being so stupid. And he replyied in a very tiny voice that he wasnt being stupid which upset her more and she continued to tell him he was. This was not done in a nice or parental way - her words were what I would call ugly and said in a tone of dislike. I wanted to say something to her but chickened out (shame on me) but I did spend quite a bit of time with the little boy and his brother. I wanted to let him know that he is not stupid and show him that not all adults act like that. I am sure that his mother is not always like this but it is not the 1st time I have got the impression that his parents dont like him, both by their words and actions. They waited along time to adopt these children and it just baffles me that they would treat this boy like this. They are not as hard on the younger brother.
I am not sure if this is bothers me because it is very hurtful to treat anyone like this, especially a child, or if I am upset because I think that he has enough to deal with being adopted and should not have to parents who dont seem to like him.
I would like to talk to my cousin about this. We are not very close and she is not the type of person who will take my concerns very well. Im not sure what to do if anything. We do not live close to each other and we only see each other 2x a year or so, so its not like I can be a good influence in this young boys life.