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Anyone else have this?

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2009 at 9:55 PM
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ok, my doctor told me today that my prolapse it to far gone for a simple fix and yet she said she won't do surgery until it is really bad. Does that make any sense??? She said unless it is uncomfortable all the time and/or painful she won't do anything about it. I was so pissed! I am thinking of changing doctors. Has anyone else ever had a similar situation with their obgyn? Am I in the wrong for getting so upset?

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mommyctanner
by New Member on Feb. 6, 2009 at 11:56 AM

My experience hasn't quite been of that, however I have been getting the run around from my general doctor who referred me to an obgyn, which took four weeks to get an appointment with, then they needed to refer me to an urologist, which was going to take an additional three weeks.  I was very upset, and found a group of doctors that primarily deal with prolapse at a university hospital.  I have an appointment with them next week.  When I talked to them, the were very reassuring that I would receive help, and not be given away to any other doctors.  I am excited to finally receive some help as I have a cystocele, rectocele, and uterine prolapse.  I would say to you, go to someone else.  Sometimes I think doctors forget that they work for us, we are paying them to fix us, and to make someone suffer, and not offer treatment to a patient is wrong.  If they aren't going through it, they have no idea what it feels like, how terrible it is emotionally as well as physically.  I have no patience for an unempathetic doctor who thinks they are above their patients.  Just remember they work for you!! You are paying them your hard earned money, and just like any other business, if their service sucks, go somewhere else.  I hope this gives you some kind of support.  And I truley feel your agony.

Crystal

Zakysmommy
by on Mar. 5, 2009 at 10:16 AM

I'm pretty lucky wiht my GYN, I found out that I had a 3rd degree rectocele and 2nd degree cystocele, I had surgery 2 weeks later to fix the problems.  Hope you get help soon.

Balancing
by New Member on Mar. 9, 2009 at 9:16 PM

just to play devil's advocate... because I am in the same boat as you or so it sounds... well, I am suppose to do physical therapy to strengthen the muscles and come back for a recheck.  I haven't gone to PT so it is my fault that there is a delay in my process... anyway...

The other side:

This is major surgery and although your current symptoms are annoying, piss you off, make you feel bad about yourself physically, maybe hurts to excercize, yadda yadda yadda... it is still major surgery and if things aren't to the point that would require the most extreme form of treatment maybe s/he would prefer to try other methods such as PT or insert, etc.

just a thought.  It is very frustrating

Coolpeasmommy
by on Mar. 11, 2009 at 1:39 AM

I wish I could do pt. She told me I was to far gone for that. She also said that I am not eligable for the insert. She said I was only able to have surgery so that is why I don't understand why she wants to wait. If there are no other options then why make me suffer? her words were "you could do kegels 10 times a day every day and it wouldn't do a thing for you. You are going to have to have surgery but I am going to wait until it is to painful to deal with before doing it because until then there is no point to it. Call and make an appointment with me if you get to that point, otherwise I'll see you next year" I just don't get it. I have stuff hanging out of me, my cervix and bladder are 1 inch from coming out, I have a hard time going to the bathroom, I am always uncomfortable, sex can be painful and it is all making me depressed but she doesn't think I am at that point yet? I'm not worried about the surgery. I just want this fixed already. I agree...very frustrating...

Quoting Balancing:

just to play devil's advocate... because I am in the same boat as you or so it sounds... well, I am suppose to do physical therapy to strengthen the muscles and come back for a recheck.  I haven't gone to PT so it is my fault that there is a delay in my process... anyway...

The other side:

This is major surgery and although your current symptoms are annoying, piss you off, make you feel bad about yourself physically, maybe hurts to excercize, yadda yadda yadda... it is still major surgery and if things aren't to the point that would require the most extreme form of treatment maybe s/he would prefer to try other methods such as PT or insert, etc.

just a thought.  It is very frustrating


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Balancing
by New Member on Mar. 12, 2009 at 8:16 AM

Can you go for a second opinion another urogyn. in the area?  If she is saying that nothing else will help and is unwilling to do surgery at this time, I would go somewhere else then. 

Coolpeasmommy
by on Mar. 14, 2009 at 2:50 AM

I plan to, but I don't know the area very well yet. I am trying to get information from some local mom's on who they trust. I moved here last april but I am a stay at home mom and I don't get out much and I really don't have any friends out here yet. Hopefully I can find a new OBGYN soon though!!!

Quoting Balancing:

Can you go for a second opinion another urogyn. in the area?  If she is saying that nothing else will help and is unwilling to do surgery at this time, I would go somewhere else then. 


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mtezak15
by on May. 11, 2009 at 5:24 AM

Howd u surgery go? what about sex after?  im just curious and sorry if the questions are too personal!

meggers!

Coolpeasmommy
by on May. 11, 2009 at 11:36 PM

I haven't had surgery yet. She won't do it and I haven't found a new doctor yet. I am hoping to fix that soon though. Not to personal at all! I will make sure to let you know how it goes once I have it!

Quoting mtezak15:

Howd u surgery go? what about sex after?  im just curious and sorry if the questions are too personal!


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jenbd
by New Member on Jun. 7, 2009 at 9:04 PM

My bladder prolapsed a few months after having my daughter.  My doctor said the same to me.   However, now I'm glad as after spending months doing Kegels and just time in general, the prolapse has lessened and the bladder is only down occasionally.  If you have young ones, any type of surgery you have to suspended it back up, will tear again w/ ANY lifting over 20lbs or running/jumping you may do while playing w/ your kids.  It is better to wait until your kids are grown and you can rest after the surgery.  Avoid a hysterectomy at all costs...you do not want your uterus removed, it is a part of your body and was put there for a reason. If you take it out, your bladder and rectum will no doubt fall as well.  This is what happened to my mom and her two sisters.  These days, any good urogynecologist would only recommend that as a last resort.

jenbd
by New Member on Jun. 7, 2009 at 9:09 PM

Sorry, I hadn't read the whole thread before responding....it sounds to me like you should definitely see another dr.  where do you live?  have you just tried googling urogyecologists?  they are specialists.

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