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What do you think about request cash for a toddlers birthday party?

Posted by on Jun. 28, 2012 at 5:08 AM
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Requesting Cash At Toddler Birthday Parties Is A Trend I Can Get Behind

I’m on record as not being a big fan of birthday parties. Let me put it another way: I’m not a fan of how everyone and their dog has birthday parties every year. I’m hoping to keep each of my kids at a max of about five parties per year that they can attend. And while I’m happy for them to host parties for their friends, I’ve encouraged them to focus the parties around other occasions. It’s working so far.

A few weeks ago, a friend of my oldest daughter’s invited her to a pool party for his fifth birthday. School’s out for summer and it sounded like a great idea to gather the kids from her wonderful junior kindergarten class. The party was awesome and held at a local pool with both a toddler area and larger pool. The parents had a great spread and it was fun to chat with adults while keeping an eye on the kids.

But the reason I bring this all up is that the invitation had something on there that I’d never seen before. It basically said that there was absolutely no need to bring gifts but that if you were so inclined, to please consider a cash donation. The reason, they said, was that they were trying to teach their son about money management. They’d take the money and divide it in half. Part would go to a charity and part would go to a toy or toys he could purchase himself.

It reminded me of the time my sister tried to get her oldest daughter behind a similar thing. My sister, considering how blessed her children were in the toy department, asked her oldest what she thought about having kids donate toys in her honor at her next birthday party. My niece had some clarifying questions but quickly figured out the bottom line: there would be no presents for her from her friends. And she burst into tears. It still makes me laugh.

OK. So I realized that the parents of my daughter’s friend had figured out how to keep their son happy while still avoiding the deluge of plastic gifts that are a hallmark of the modern-day birthday party. And I have to admit, I like the trend, too.

Like most families, we’re pressed for time. Something as simple as going to a store, picking out a gift, coming home, wrapping it, remembering we forgot to get a card, going to get a card, and filling out that card, can send us over the edge. It’s one thing if you’re really good at gift-giving. But mostly birthday parties are about the fun times you have together anyway.

This was the easiest preparation for a birthday ever. I’d been out of town all week. My husband picked up a card at the CVS. We stuck a $10 bill in there and had the kids write their names in it. Voila. Done. Everyone’s happy.

So is there any way we can get this trend to continue? I want all my kids’ friends to ask for cash at their next birthday party. Heck, even if they don’t, I think cash is the way I’m going. Let the parents pick out their own toys. Let the parents buy a couple of beers, what do I care?

But if you do it like our friend did, you help the child learn the value of money and you save everyone else a heck of a lot of time.

What do you think?


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chrarrington18
by on Jun. 28, 2012 at 7:54 AM

I am not a fan of askig for cash. To me if you ask for a donatio to a charity in your childs name to a charity is one thing but out right sking for cash to me is tacky no matter what the reasoning behind it is. Yes sometimes going to the store and doing the whole dance of getting a gift is stressful but for my son this is one of the things he ooks forward to. I honestly would think twice about attendig a party that the invite has no gifts but a money request. I have gotten the no gifts invite and thats fine with me. I have sent out the no gifts invite myself. Does that mean everyone follows the request, no but both my kids bdays are so cose to christmas (ds october and dd february) they really dont need any gifts. Heck I prefer cloths then toys as bday gifts ayway but thats just me.

momofsixangels
by on Jun. 28, 2012 at 10:49 AM
I think its tacky
kavon
by Kaya on Jun. 28, 2012 at 12:49 PM

Nope, I don't even like it when it is  done for weddings...... I don't put anything regarding gifts on my invites ( if a gift is brought great, if not doesn't matter)  and we don't do the opening of gifts at the party either.......I alway walk with a gift when we attend a party, may not be an expensive gift but i try to make a thoughtful one.

earthangel1967
by on Jun. 28, 2012 at 8:10 PM

I dont like it I think its tacky unless someone asks what they should get and then its ok to suggest and why like you are saving up for big expensive gift for example....

but otherwise I think its a big no no

I am a BIG FAN OF WISH LISTS at all ages though... for little ones, teens and adults I LOVE Wish lists

 YVONNE

earthangel1967
by on Jun. 28, 2012 at 8:11 PM

another reason I dont like it especially for little ones is because part of the fun and joy of going to someones party is to watch them actually OPEN their gifts in front of you. 

 YVONNE

chrarrington18
by on Jun. 28, 2012 at 10:26 PM
I don't like opening gifts at the party. To much crasyness for me. The three times we did it kids were grabbing and wanting to open everything. I prefer to take them home and open the gifts and send out the thank you notes.


Quoting earthangel1967:

another reason I dont like it especially for little ones is because part of the fun and joy of going to someones party is to watch them actually OPEN their gifts in front of you. 


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vicky88
by Member on Jun. 29, 2012 at 5:09 PM
We did something similar. We put something along the lines of gifts are not necessary but if you would like to you can make a donation at St. Jude in honor of her. You can even call at St. Jude and they will send you cards to give a long.
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Alejandra10
by on Jun. 30, 2012 at 12:55 AM
Nope the present is optional I don't invite people for presents they can bring whatever they wish to bring them if they want
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psychobilly_mom
by on Jun. 30, 2012 at 5:57 AM
1 mom liked this

Not cool with me -_-

Angela_Barlow
by on Jun. 30, 2012 at 6:41 PM
I don't mind wish lists(registries for showers) but to outright ask for something particular is tacky as hell.
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