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Posted by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM
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Some brief son was a late talker.  Started talking just before age three.  Before that, very good receptive language, signs, gestures, etc.  Majority of males in my family for many generations, also did not talk until about age three.  I was not overly concerned.  Opted not to have him evaluated and all that, because I believed the language would come, and it did.

Now he is 3 1/2.  Can't shut him up.  lol  He says and understands some words and concepts that other kids his age don't even know.  Is every word totally clear?  No.  Are there even times when I am not sure of a word he is saying.  Sure. 

So, I took him to the doctor today and saw a new doctor in the practice.  My son is pretty sick with a double ear infection and an eye infection.  The doctor, before even evaluating his sickness, starts talking to me about speech.  And how just in the couple minutes she talked to him when coming in the room, she noticed some of his speech was not clear.  A lot of words were clear and his sentence structure was good.  At age three his speech should be 75% clear and at age four, he should be 100% clear. 

I am not freaked out about his speech.  I figure since he started talking at three, everything will be pushed back a bit.  I don't see that he will be "behind" forever.  I see a kid who has made amazing progress in six months.  Am I just being a blind, glass half full mom?  Or do I just have a better grasp on my child, than a person who met him for two minutes before evaluating him?  Especially since we were not there for that or any sort of normal checkup - my kid was sick - just treat him please!!  (that really bothered me, can you tell!?!?)

Any words of wisdom/slaps of reality would be appreciated!

by on Jan. 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM
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by Member on Jan. 19, 2010 at 9:30 AM

well being his mom you are his advocate. can you understand him 75% of the time, can a stranger understand him 75% of the time? that's what you have to think about. i know it's annoying when people throw their two cents in when you're not even there for that! my daughter is in speech twice a week and OT once a week. she has been diagnosed with apraxia, a speech disorder. we have a very long road ahead of us with therapy, she does a lot of sound ommission so it's hard to understand her, daddy is dayyyee, our dog is ibby, (libby) and with apraxia she'll repeat you but when it's time for her to say it it's gone, very frustrating. she was also a late talker, at this age, she's 3, you can understand her maybe 45% of the time. and i mean clearly understand her. it's bad. and she has a sensory problem too. but i'm glad i caught it while she's still young enough to help change it. if you feel that he might have a speech problem, then have him seen. it won't hurt. if anything it'll help him make things more clearly. the evaluation is done through a series of "games" so he won't even know he's being tested. it's similar to the brigance test that schools use to evaluate handicapped children that need extra services, which will be waht i'm going to face with lexi when she starts school. she also had a series of problems with her ears, she had tubes put in at 17 months. so i thought that her delay was from not hearing for 17 months, but it wasn't. like i said ou know your child the best. if you feel that strangers can understand him 75% of the time then ignore the doctor. if you feel that maybe strangers can't understand him that much then get him seen by a speech pathologist. good luck

by on Jan. 19, 2010 at 8:31 PM

I say who cares what the doc says? Let's say if he was 5 and he still had issues...then you said adjust for when he himself started talking. My son is 2 1/2 and still doesn't much of anything. Although he does well in communicating most of his needs.

by New Member on Jan. 26, 2010 at 2:06 AM

As a mother, you sometimes have do go with your gut feeling.  I am glad that we did this with my son.  Our pediatrician referred us to Early Intervention at age 2 because he had had a year of ear aches and fluid in his ear and had stopped talking all together.  We started the testing and evaluating and the county's speech therapists coming to the house at age 2 1/2 when he still was not talking and was preferring to be by himself.

There was no progress made in the 6 months that the therapists came to the house - we pointed at pictures and worked puzzles.  If they tried to force him to talk, he would just run away.  One of the therapists noticed that he liked to chew on toothbrushes and liked to steal his little brother's pacifiers and sent us to an occupational therapist who said that he was a sensory seeker and had oral sensory issues.  Everyone forgot about wanting to help him talk and started focusing on this.  The school board diagnosed him as "severly autistic" at age three and wanted to put him in a blended all day classroom because he had separation anxiety issues at the testing and screamed the whole time..

We declined services and found our own OT therapists and speech therapists and pay copays and drive all over town all week.  He is now saying more words everyday at home and is much better behaved.  Our speech therapist is taking 3 months to evaluate him and was leaning toward apraxia (which has nothing to do with autism, it is a speech disorder) a few weeks ago because he was not imitating.  But now he is saying so many new words a day that I think he might just be a late talker who is a year behind because he had fluid in his ears for a year and his ear specialist drug his feet on putting in tubes until I got mad and insisted.  He makes his best progress at home, especially with daddy.  So, who knows if speech therapy and OT has helped him or if he would have just started talking on his own. ..  We are keeping him in speech and OT until he enters preK in another year hoping that he can catch up and go to private school with sister.  We are lucky - our insurance copays are only $11 for OT and $5 for speech though. 


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by on Feb. 9, 2010 at 11:17 AM

dont worry about it. Some kids speech are not as developed as others. it takes a while and even at four my oldest doesnt have some words that come out clear

by New Member on Mar. 11, 2010 at 11:51 PM

It took me awhile to update this....

But thanks for the responses!

I took my son for a check-up about two weeks ago, with his regular doctor.  He had never had a check up with her.  (fairly new doctor for us.)  She had met him many times when I brought my baby in, but he has never been the focus of a visit.

She checked him out physically, as well as asking him a lot of questions, such as, what would you do if you were tired?  What vegetables do you eat?  Do you brush your teeth?  Etc.

She said NOT A WORD about his speech!!  Because he is fine! 

In fact when she asked about noises my baby was making, when she was examing him, I said not as many as other "typical" babies, but that my older son was the same way when he was a baby.  She said, so your not concerned?  I said no.  There were no assumptions in her voice.

Seriously, that still just bugs the crap out of me - I bring a sick child in and get lectured about speech. Very annoying.

Anyway...just wanted to share....


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