You need to do either frequent release or abstain! YOU WANT LOW SPERM COUNT!
Another post brought to my attention that I have never posted about sperm count. For girls, you want a low sperm count. It can take a little longer to get pregnant with a low count, but it is well worth it. Many women stll get pregnant within a month or two even with a low count. BD every other day or every few days is a NO for girls. That is prime timing for a boy.
For a girl, you have two choices. Either FR or No BD. With FR, you need to have DH/SO release every signle day for at least 7 days. This can be done either through sex or masturabtion. I was not fond of the masturbation idea, so we BD every day and made sure not to get any inside of me. Many people just use condoms during this time. For no BD or absaining, DH/SO needs to not release AT ALL for 7-14 days. That means no sex, no shower time or anything at all. You need to make sure he doesn't sneak and do anything!
No BD is said to be more successful than FR, but we have an active sex life and weren't cool with going days without it. Do whatever works best for you!