any advice for a teen mom

[tiffany_poorman]

Hello ladys; I am 19 years old and doing my best to raise my 19 month old little princess. I am getting divorced and have a hearing for next week to get an restraining order against her father. I have been domesticly abused and he has been charged with agrivated menessing for threatening to kill me. I also start school back up in a week I am a full time college student as well. I live with my mother and she is helpful but I know it has to be stressful for her as well. I finally am dating a man who treats me and my daughter the way we deserve to be treated and my friends and family like him as well. But any ways I was wondering if any of you have been through a divorse or been to court before. I'm very scared, I mean the judge already talked with me and told me with the restraining order I get full custody of my daughter and the only way things can chang is with the divorse. But i'm scared! I love my daughter so much she is my world. Also is there any advice you all can give me because all this is so stressful and I try to hide my feelings but I know my daughter can sence my emotions she has been acting up so bad.

So I guess any advice?

[margaretandem]

It sounds like you are taking some steps to create a healthy life for you and your child.  I would strongly suggest seeking the support of a local domestic violence group or shelter.  They often have support groups and workers who can talk you through all that you will have to deal with in terms of the court system, as well as people who could even accompany you to court for added support.  It could be helpful to talk with someone to vent so that you don't have to hold all the stress in.  You can only hold it all in for so long, and kids tend to sense when there is that tension and stress, so it would appear that you have to find another way to cope.  Seeking counseling support via domestic violence services might be a big help for you and your daughter.  Keep focusing on making healthy decisions for you and your daughter, which includes seeking outside support for you.  I wish you well.  Let us know how that goes.

Margaret Andem, LCSW

http://www.andemtherapy.com/

 

[tiffany_poorman]

# # my husband walked out of our marriage after 6 days. He left with another women and I started paper work for my divorce then. I have a boy friend because he has been there for me and my daughter since the begin. He helps out all the time with my daughter and around the house and so on. I felt as though I needed to move on with my life. I do not mean to sound rude but I can't just sit back and not do any thing. And my DAUGHTER IS FIRST PRIORITY!

[tiffany_poorman]

one my lawyer knows about my boyfriend and she said their is no problem with me being with him because i am considered legally separated because i did not hook up with him til after my husband walked out on me. and my daughter is my first priority i have taken every parenting class i could just to be the best teen mom i could be. And further more the court orders a restraining order so that my husband can not be near my daughter because they see him as a danger.

[margaretandem]

Seems like you are taking the appropriate steps to handle this situation and you are to be commended for that.  I wish you the best with this.  Please be sure to make yourself a priority along with your daughter and take good care of yourself while you are taking good care of your daughter.  Keep doing the positive things that you are doing.  I hope this situation turns out well for you and your daughter.

Margaret Andem, LCSW

http://www.andemtherapy.com/