This group has become a family, sharing joys, frustrations and anticipation. I am so excited for you to be here. Please tell us a little bit about yourself and explain your connection to open adoption. I'm glad you're here!
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on Sep. 30, 2007 at 10:37 PM
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on Sep. 30, 2007 at 11:30 PM
Hello, my name is Dena, my husband and I became first time parents on September 11th to a beautiful baby girl. I am so thankful for her birth parents and love them for the precious life they have entrusted to us. We have an open adoption and I see my daughters birth mother regularly (more than once a week). We also have contact with her birth father, that relationship is still new as he did not feel comfortable meeting us right away.
I know that each adoption story is unique, I feel so very blessed that we have a good relationship with our daughters birth parents and look forward to sharing her life with them. It makes me feel good to know that they will never have to wonder if she is happy, healthy, loved, or if they see a child that resembles them they will not have to wonder if it is their child, they will know her and my hope is they will be assured every minute of every day that this child is safe, and loved.
Thank you for starting this group, it is nice to have a group that is specific to open adoption.
I know that each adoption story is unique, I feel so very blessed that we have a good relationship with our daughters birth parents and look forward to sharing her life with them. It makes me feel good to know that they will never have to wonder if she is happy, healthy, loved, or if they see a child that resembles them they will not have to wonder if it is their child, they will know her and my hope is they will be assured every minute of every day that this child is safe, and loved.
Thank you for starting this group, it is nice to have a group that is specific to open adoption.
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Group Owner
on Sep. 30, 2007 at 11:33 PM
Quoting luvnrita:Welcome. Your story sounds like a beautiful one. Can't wait to get to know you.
Hello, my name is Dena, my husband and I became first time parents on September 11th to a beautiful baby girl. I am so thankful for her birth parents and love them for the precious life they have entrusted to us. We have an open adoption and I see my daughters birth mother regularly (more than once a week). We also have contact with her birth father, that relationship is still new as he did not feel comfortable meeting us right away.
I know that each adoption story is unique, I feel so very blessed that we have a good relationship with our daughters birth parents and look forward to sharing her life with them. It makes me feel good to know that they will never have to wonder if she is happy, healthy, loved, or if they see a child that resembles them they will not have to wonder if it is their child, they will know her and my hope is they will be assured every minute of every day that this child is safe, and loved.
Thank you for starting this group, it is nice to have a group that is specific to open adoption.
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New Member
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 9:41 AM
My name now is Jennifer. If my biological mother Susan kept me it would have been Krista Bishop. I'm here because I've been throught the system and understand what it is to be adopted. I know my birth mother and both have met. I've met with Betty Jean Lifton when I was 15 and had the article printed in 17 magazine. I've even been on a tv show taking about adoption. When I was in College the three of us, my mom, Susan, and I talked to a bunch of college students about the benefits of adoption.
by
Group Owner
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 9:45 AM
Quoting freespirit30:Welcome, Jennifer. How interesting and exciting. I'd love to know more about all of this public action you've gotten. Sounds like you're on a crusade as so many of us are. Thank you for joining our group!
My name now is Jennifer. If my biological mother Susan kept me it would have been Krista Bishop. I'm here because I've been throught the system and understand what it is to be adopted. I know my birth mother and both have met. I've met with Betty Jean Lifton when I was 15 and had the article printed in 17 magazine. I've even been on a tv show taking about adoption. When I was in College the three of us, my mom, Susan, and I talked to a bunch of college students about the benefits of adoption.
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New Member
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 2:27 PM
Hi all,
I am a Bmom and an Amom! I currently in an open adoption with my 9 month old sons Bmom. She is an amazing and loving woman! I miss her!!
I ahve also been reunited with my son for about 4 years now.....he is 19!
Hope to get to know you!!
Kacy
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Member
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 2:50 PM
Hello all.... I am so glad alexmomma had started an open adoption group!
We are in an open adoption as well. We were at the birth of our twins daughters almost 3 year ago. Amazing it has gone by so fast. Our daughter's birthmom at this time is not keeping in contact, but she requested we stay in contact with her sister. So... i send picture/little photo albums I make, call periodically, and have sent a few videos. We are planing to go visit in the next year. I want my girls to know they have a biological family out there for the future. I also want to maintain contact so they don't have to go searching when they get older.
We would love for the girls birthmom to be involved, but respect her wishes at this time.
When my dh and I decided to adopt. We looked at the various options available and open adoption just seemed a great choice. We have several friends who are also in open adoptions from birthfamilies that have become extended family to ones like our pictures and photos.
Darene
We are in an open adoption as well. We were at the birth of our twins daughters almost 3 year ago. Amazing it has gone by so fast. Our daughter's birthmom at this time is not keeping in contact, but she requested we stay in contact with her sister. So... i send picture/little photo albums I make, call periodically, and have sent a few videos. We are planing to go visit in the next year. I want my girls to know they have a biological family out there for the future. I also want to maintain contact so they don't have to go searching when they get older.
We would love for the girls birthmom to be involved, but respect her wishes at this time.
When my dh and I decided to adopt. We looked at the various options available and open adoption just seemed a great choice. We have several friends who are also in open adoptions from birthfamilies that have become extended family to ones like our pictures and photos.
Darene
by
Group Owner
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 5:36 PM
Quoting ilovepeyton:
Hi all,
I am a Bmom and an Amom! I currently in an open adoption with my 9 month old sons Bmom. She is an amazing and loving woman! I miss her!!
I ahve also been reunited with my son for about 4 years now.....he is 19!
Hope to get to know you!!
Kacy
Kacy, it's great to have you here. My son is also 9 months old. Time flies, doesn't it? It's hard to believe he was just 7 weeks old when he came home to us. (Actually, it's hard to blieve that he was once 11 lbs. If you've seen any of my pictures, you'd see how ginormous he is now. Ouch...my back!)
Looking forward to getting to know more about you. Welcome!
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Member
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 5:36 PM
Hello,
Thank you for starting this group! I think this is just what I have been looking for.
Here is our story:
My husband and I were married in 1999 and waited to have kiddos. When we started trying in 2003, nothing was happening. We pursued the infertility route and ended up trying IVF. During the course of that treatment, I developed a blood clot and we had to cancel everything. We had talked about adoption before and now decided that that was the way we would build our family.
We started our classes in October of 2005, and we were certified by the end of April 2006. (Domestic- through CSS) We waited and waited and waited. I felt like this was never going to happen. One day we got a phone call for a baby boy who had been born and was ready to go home. He didn't quite match our profile so our case manager wanted to know if we still wanted to be presented. We thought long and hard and said "yes". I was in a state of panic, because although we did have a nursery ready, I didn't quite feel ready. I kept telling my husband that we couldn't bring home a baby because the back of my car was covered in dog hair.
Anyways- we weren't chosen, but that was for a reason. Everyone kept telling me that God has a plan and we would get the baby meant for us.
In November we received another phone call. My husband called me at work and gave me the good news. We had been chosen, but sit down to hear the rest. When the birthmother had looked at our picture collage she recognized someone in the pictures. Turns out that she is the daughter of long time friends of my husband's parents. So everything proceeded, I was still on pins and needles. I wanted this baby more than anything, but also knew that I would be allright if she decided to keep her, because I knew how much I wanted to be a mother, and if she wanted that opportunity for herself she should take it.
Maddie was born on January 1st, 2007 and is a wonderful, funny, expressive, little girl. I can see traits from her birthmom and birthgrandmom in her. I was in the delivery room with her and will treasure this gift she has blessed us with forever. We have kept in contact and talk and visit occasionally. I know believe that God really does have a plan, in which the right child and the right parents are united. I can't imagine my life without Maddie, and I look forward to getting to know her birth family better so that Maddie will grow up with lots of people who love and care about her.
Thanks again for this group!
Becca
Thank you for starting this group! I think this is just what I have been looking for.
Here is our story:
My husband and I were married in 1999 and waited to have kiddos. When we started trying in 2003, nothing was happening. We pursued the infertility route and ended up trying IVF. During the course of that treatment, I developed a blood clot and we had to cancel everything. We had talked about adoption before and now decided that that was the way we would build our family.
We started our classes in October of 2005, and we were certified by the end of April 2006. (Domestic- through CSS) We waited and waited and waited. I felt like this was never going to happen. One day we got a phone call for a baby boy who had been born and was ready to go home. He didn't quite match our profile so our case manager wanted to know if we still wanted to be presented. We thought long and hard and said "yes". I was in a state of panic, because although we did have a nursery ready, I didn't quite feel ready. I kept telling my husband that we couldn't bring home a baby because the back of my car was covered in dog hair.
Anyways- we weren't chosen, but that was for a reason. Everyone kept telling me that God has a plan and we would get the baby meant for us.
In November we received another phone call. My husband called me at work and gave me the good news. We had been chosen, but sit down to hear the rest. When the birthmother had looked at our picture collage she recognized someone in the pictures. Turns out that she is the daughter of long time friends of my husband's parents. So everything proceeded, I was still on pins and needles. I wanted this baby more than anything, but also knew that I would be allright if she decided to keep her, because I knew how much I wanted to be a mother, and if she wanted that opportunity for herself she should take it.
Maddie was born on January 1st, 2007 and is a wonderful, funny, expressive, little girl. I can see traits from her birthmom and birthgrandmom in her. I was in the delivery room with her and will treasure this gift she has blessed us with forever. We have kept in contact and talk and visit occasionally. I know believe that God really does have a plan, in which the right child and the right parents are united. I can't imagine my life without Maddie, and I look forward to getting to know her birth family better so that Maddie will grow up with lots of people who love and care about her.
Thanks again for this group!
Becca
by
Group Owner
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 5:37 PM
Quoting twobutterflys:Hey Darene! So glad you joined, and thank you for thanking me for staring this group. I am so excited to get to know you better and to learn of how everyone's unique open adoption stories are. Welcome!
Hello all.... I am so glad alexmomma had started an open adoption group!
We are in an open adoption as well. We were at the birth of our twins daughters almost 3 year ago. Amazing it has gone by so fast. Our daughter's birthmom at this time is not keeping in contact, but she requested we stay in contact with her sister. So... i send picture/little photo albums I make, call periodically, and have sent a few videos. We are planing to go visit in the next year. I want my girls to know they have a biological family out there for the future. I also want to maintain contact so they don't have to go searching when they get older.
We would love for the girls birthmom to be involved, but respect her wishes at this time.
When my dh and I decided to adopt. We looked at the various options available and open adoption just seemed a great choice. We have several friends who are also in open adoptions from birthfamilies that have become extended family to ones like our pictures and photos.
Darene
by
Group Owner
on Oct. 1, 2007 at 7:15 PM
Quoting maddiesmom107:Wow, Becca. The goosebumps on my arms won't go away. Your story is very close to mine. We were picked by a student at the school where we both taught. Although she had kept him for his first 6 weeks of life, she called randomly one day asking about our process. I went straight to her house and a week later, our son was in our house. We didn't have ANYTHING! Luckily, I am a teacher at a big school and a lot of my coworkers gave me clothes and baby items. Also, the day before we brought Alex home, we went to his house and his firstmother gave us all of his things that she had gotten from her shower. Also, in our case, we found out that her family is from the same hometown as mine (I don't live there anymore) and...here's the clincher...her aunt sang at our wedding 5 years ago. When everything began to happen, it was like I could see God's tapestry of our lives unfolding right in front of me.
Hello,
Thank you for starting this group! I think this is just what I have been looking for.
Here is our story:
My husband and I were married in 1999 and waited to have kiddos. When we started trying in 2003, nothing was happening. We pursued the infertility route and ended up trying IVF. During the course of that treatment, I developed a blood clot and we had to cancel everything. We had talked about adoption before and now decided that that was the way we would build our family.
We started our classes in October of 2005, and we were certified by the end of April 2006. (Domestic- through CSS) We waited and waited and waited. I felt like this was never going to happen. One day we got a phone call for a baby boy who had been born and was ready to go home. He didn't quite match our profile so our case manager wanted to know if we still wanted to be presented. We thought long and hard and said "yes". I was in a state of panic, because although we did have a nursery ready, I didn't quite feel ready. I kept telling my husband that we couldn't bring home a baby because the back of my car was covered in dog hair.
Anyways- we weren't chosen, but that was for a reason. Everyone kept telling me that God has a plan and we would get the baby meant for us.
In November we received another phone call. My husband called me at work and gave me the good news. We had been chosen, but sit down to hear the rest. When the birthmother had looked at our picture collage she recognized someone in the pictures. Turns out that she is the daughter of long time friends of my husband's parents. So everything proceeded, I was still on pins and needles. I wanted this baby more than anything, but also knew that I would be allright if she decided to keep her, because I knew how much I wanted to be a mother, and if she wanted that opportunity for herself she should take it.
Maddie was born on January 1st, 2007 and is a wonderful, funny, expressive, little girl. I can see traits from her birthmom and birthgrandmom in her. I was in the delivery room with her and will treasure this gift she has blessed us with forever. We have kept in contact and talk and visit occasionally. I know believe that God really does have a plan, in which the right child and the right parents are united. I can't imagine my life without Maddie, and I look forward to getting to know her birth family better so that Maddie will grow up with lots of people who love and care about her.
Thanks again for this group!
Becca
By the way, Alex was born on Dec. 29, '06 so he's only a few days older than your daughter, so we can celebrate milestones together.
Welcome. So glad you're here.
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