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Posted by on May. 7, 2007 at 5:31 PM
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What  do you do when your pregnant and your babies father works out of town and is talking and texting other girls when he's not home? But, he says that he loves you and that I'm the one he wants to be with. I'm like if I'm the one (and he's setting a weding date for us) then why talk to the other girls on the side when all it does is hurts me. I'm five months pregnant and plus I have twenty month old that I take care of everyday while he's at work.  This is only breaking my heart and adding stress to my pregnancy. I've gotten to the point where I don't care anymore and I love him so much he's the father of my kids and I actually wanna make our relationship work. I don't wanna leave him, but right now it seems like the only thing to do at this point.

SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT DO I DO?????

by on May. 7, 2007 at 5:31 PM
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jnkbf
by on May. 8, 2007 at 10:41 PM
I know this is corny, but have you talked to him about it? I kinda went through somewhat of the same thing,except it was his ex-wife.  Long story, but I mean comfrontation is the best policy.  I know it is going to be hard and it is gonna suck, but try.  As for the other girls, are they friends, or is there more? IF they are just friends, try to let it go, if it more... Tell him to choose.
chinatxmom
by New Member on May. 8, 2007 at 10:50 PM
I would discuss it with him and he still says stuff like ,Your the one I want to be with or your the one I love ,it most likely will not stop once your marriedI know you love him but you don't need that kind of drama while your pregnant and trying to take care of another babie.GOOD LUCK
andymom2be
by on Sep. 25, 2007 at 11:39 PM
Well, we recently got married three months ago and our relationship is so much better. I also had my baby a week ago today and since then he has moved back home and is about to start a new job. I hope he's finally come to his senses and maybe he knows that if he messes up again that he'll be missing out on a good thing plus his kids.
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by on Sep. 26, 2007 at 9:32 AM
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sylasmom
by New Member on Sep. 26, 2007 at 9:42 AM

I feel like I know who my bf loves and I know who hes coming home to so if he wants to talk to, hang out with, or even flirt with another female I'm ok with it. This tends to cause a little debate with some of my friends or they ussually tell me that those things would make them feel very uncomfortable, and that they just don't feel secure enough. I also spend a ton of time with my bf so I know that nothing funny is going on. Some times I'm just so happy to get him out of the house, and my hair, that i don't care what he does, LOL. Congrats on the new baby. I hope all is well, and remember before you end it, make sure he is doing something wrong. After I had my daughter I would have left my bf if he walked to loud. I was just a little hormonal, lol.

andymom2be
by on Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:28 PM
Yea the last thing I wanna do is leave him because I love him so much. And I never accuse him of anything until I know for sure that he's doing something wrong. We both agree that when we got married that divorce was not an option. I just want him to be faithful. Sometimes I don't care about him talking and being around other females but this time is was when he was working out of town and I didn't know what was going on with him gone five days out of the week. Or maybe is was just my hormones lol. I just love him too much to lose him.
LeoGeminiMommie
by on Sep. 29, 2007 at 4:13 PM
OK, girl i know how hard it is i left my daughter father before i found i was pg with her and u can do it alone i know we don't like to but we are strong don't ever forget that!!! is this women his co-workers talking about business? because i text some of my school friends about work and Eric reads them so he can see i ain' t on bull-shit. ask him can u read them if he he don't have anything to hide, good luck don't stress please i lost my son because my stress level was high my blood pressure was to high and he died when i was 20 weeks pg please take care of yourself and that baby sending u a big cyberhug, Kenya
Lilcountrygrl86
by New Member on Sep. 29, 2007 at 5:35 PM
Well I think you should tell him how you feel, it will make you feel better. Do you know the girls that he has been texting? Has he always had alot of female friends? Hopefully they are just freinds, but you should still tell him how you feel and it hurts you. How would he like it if you were talkiig to other guys all the time? You should let him think about that, let him see things from your perspective. I have been with my bf for 2 years, and we have a four month old. I recently found porn on the computer in our room. I was so hurt by it, and as hard as it was I told him how I felt. He had always said porn is stupid so I was supprised when I found it. It made me feel like I was not enough for him anymore. He said he is a guy and guys do that, so I told him how would he like it if I were cheken out other guys naked. He was all buthurt about it but he said he wouls stop it if it really upsets me. So you should let him know how you feel, because he is actually talkin to other women.
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