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[mAmA2ApRiiNc3]

well i guess i got my self into this..........i have a seven month old and i breastfeed, and i got used to feeding him in my bed laying down! Now when i try to put him in his crib he wakes up and wont stay in there! I know very well this is my fault, but i want to break this habit and get my bed back!!!! :) he wont sleep throughout the night in or out of my bed as well. he wants to suck, even if he isnt eating...so i try and give him a pacifier or even my finger but he wants my breast!!!!!!! uuuuggghhhhhh! its so hard because it hurts to see him cry and i give in so easily......i need a new game plan!!!!!  HELP!!!!!at 3 months!!!!

[goddess_alyson]

Unfortunately you're going to have to be more stubborn than your LO.  You aren't a bad mommy, you've done what's worked.  Comfort nursing is normal, especially with infants that co-sleep.  As for the paci, keep trying to give it to him to see if he'll take it.  If not, don't worry because that'll be one less habit you'll have to break in the future...lol.  When you put him in his crib at night are you putting him down completely asleep or drowsy?  If I were you I'd put him down drowsy so he'll know where he is when he's falling asleep.  Part of the crying may be he wakes up and the last thing he remembers was he was asleep in your arms and then the next thing he knows, he's someplace else.

[mAmA2ApRiiNc3]

  

hey thankz! what do you think about letting him cry in his crib until he falls asleep? :(

[QTpie1]

What I found worked for me was feeding my DD in her room right before each nap and before her night time feed so there were no distractions.  Then I put her down awake (she's sleepy at this point but sometimes she would cry).  If she didn't cry I would leave the room... if she did I would sit in a chair beside her crib... I didn't touch her, talk to her or even look at her.  I would just sit with my eyes closed so she knew I was there... she cried for a bit but eventually she would soothe herself to sleep.  Each day move the chair a little bit further away from the crib towards the door but make sure he can still see you.  If after 1 hour your son has not fallen asleep then pick him up from the crib but don't coddle him or show that you are happy.  After a few minutes you can resume your normal self with him.  Eventually, he will figure out that he's safe in the crib and will soothe himself to sleep. It's tough the first few days but my daughter now takes 2 hour naps and sleeps 12 hours through the night.

Hope this helps...

[mzei06]

Hi there,

Sounds like we have the same problem - bad habits die hard they say.. lol ..But, I think you are way ahead of the game than I am.. My DD is almost 9months and to date I've been doin' exactly what you are / were doing with your son.

I am also searching high and low for the best way to kick the bad habits to the kerb and move on.. She is also waking several times at nite wanting mah boobie, just like your son she just wants to suck even though she's not hungry.. I think at this moment she's just doin' it as a comfort thing, I've tried the dummy and that doesn't work, she never took it when she was little and to make it all worse she doesn't take the bottle either.. So, yeah.. Trouble at bay..

So, just to let you know that you're not alone on ya mission and I like to say thank you so much for posting this - I am going to use some of the suggestions from the replies to see if it will work on my lil one..

[mAmA2ApRiiNc3]

 well i started working so i needed something quick! you know!! so i did what i have heard everybody suggest me to do and that was to let him cry in the crib until he fell asleep! it sucked but actually it helped! you will feel bad and you will think she will never stop crying but she will! then the following days it wont be as long! this helped me and then he started waking in the middle of the night but you gotta do the same lay down and feed her but as soon as you know she is done put her back in the crib if she starts crying let her cry! when you start make sure its always at the same time every night and make sure you have a complete week to be committed to doin it. my son now only takes 5-10 minutes to fall asleep and stays asleep from 8:30pm-3:30/4:00am and then goes back to sleep until 7/8am.

so try it and it just might work also feeding your baby something that sticks to her ribs might help too! start feeding her real good and she wont be so attached to your boobie! :) if you want to know what i feed my son just lemme know kay!

[goddess_alyson]

I'm glad you found something that works for you!