When we get married, we tend to do so with the expectation that our mates will always be the exciting 20-year old that we "fell" in love with. "But a funny thing happens on our way to retirement...we change. And if we change the things our mates once found attractive, we have to replace them with something better. Even in the courtship phase of your relationship, his affection for you didn't 'just happen.' It grew in response to something he liked about you. Perhaps his feelings were stirred by your appearance, your personality, or the way you made him feel. If you have disposed of those positive qualities, his love for you may have dwindled to apathy. During the courtship days, you probably had limited exposure to your fiance'. It was easy for each of you to put the other's needs or best interests first since you didn't have to do it 24 hours a day. Obviously, if your fiance' was putting your best interests first and fulfilling your needs to the neglect of his own, your heart was melting daily in response to him, and vice versa. After marriage, things quickly changed. The exposure was no longer limited to times when you were both 'at your best.' For each, your own interests began to take precedence over the other's. Under these cicumstances, it didn't take long for swelling affections to subside. That's why the 'other woman' is at such an advantage. She can offer the new attractions your husband assumes you have lost. She can quickly stir the deep, romantic feelings your husband longs to feel toward you. In the context of their brief encounters, both of them can temporarily subdue their self-centered natures and put the best foot forward.
"What specifically can you do to increase your inward beauty that is naturally reflected through your eyes and facial expressions and definitely increases your attractiveness?" See part II which is to follow later!
From HOW TO BECOME YOUR HUSBAND'S BEST FRIEND by Gary Smalley
Secret to a Lasting Marriage?
Family VS New Guy
- NannyB.
on Jun. 9, 2010 at 10:50 AM