New Members!! Please Read!!

[LeeDB]

Please take a second to introduce yourself! 
Welcome to the group, I hope we can all exchange our stories and be a support system for eachother.

~Lisa

 

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[UpsideDwnMemory]

Hi, My name is Melanie!!! I am soooooo glad to see that this group exists! I know I could definitely use some support sometimes! I lost my daughter's twin when I was 9 weeks pregnant and I remember that day like it was yesterday and she is 15 months old now! It is exceptionally hard to deal with because I am a twin so I know what the bond between twins is like. My sister and I are identical and she is the closest person in the world to me. I ended up pregnant with twins because I had to be on fertility meds to get pregnant....it does NOT run in my family! I am here for anyone who needs to talk!! Good luck to all of you who are going through this or have gone through it at one time, I know it's not easy.

[dtjohnson7]

My name is Dianna. Jake is 3 months old now and I am not sure how far along I was when I lost his twin, I was too stunned by the whole thing. I am adopted and have no way of knowing if twins are in the family. Sometimes I feel like I was a twin so maybe I was and we were separated or it was a Vanishing Twin because I have read that the surviving twin always feels like something is missing. I put a little more detail in the coping thread and don't want to repeat myself but I am glad to see this group here also.

[Sica_Belle]

Hi I'm Jessica, I believe I myself am a twin. I asked my Mom about it when I was younger and (of course) she lied at first, then finally told me there were originally two separate heartbeats. ( This has been a habbit of hers my entire life.)
My niece Brittani is a twin, she was born w/ a perfectly circular mark on her back right behind her heart. Dr's explained that it was where the umbilical cord of the other twin was connected and that it would heal. Of course it has healed, you can't even tell that it was there. And of course, my Mom denies the Dr. even made the statement, even though I was right there when it was made.
I don't guess I'll ever really know, but when I was little I was absolutely convinced I had a brother and my sister demanded she go back to the hospital to bring her brother home after I was born.

[LUVINRONOUR3]

My youngest baby is 20months old.  I found out there was another baby at five weeks, the way they told me was "Don't be telling anybody because its not going to make it and that will be hard to explain to people the situation" Like I would deny my baby was ever there!!

[sarabear524]

Hi, I'm Sara.  I just had an u/s today for my 4th pregnancy.  It showed two sacs...one empty, one with a perfect baby measuring 10 weeks.  When my Dr. first showed me, it didn't really sink in.  But as I've had time to process it, I'm feeling kinda sad.  Realizing that at one point he/she was alive, even if just a few days/weeks.  I have a tendency towards depression so I really don't want to let this bother me REALLY bad but I also feel this baby deserves to be greived for.

[LMDB910]

Hi Sara.  SOrry it took me so long to reply.  I know exactly what you are going through.  It took a long time for me to really believe that I was pregnant with 2.  Reality set in about 30 weeks into my pregnancy, I began to realize that my child was NOT a singleton, he was in fact a twin.  It's weird emotion to place, on one hand you have a healthy growing baby, but at the same time you are mourning the loss of a child as well.  I do agree, the baby desesrves to be mourned, but at the same time, remember, you have a healthy baby that will be here soon enough that you can hold and love.

Quoting sarabear524:

Hi, I'm Sara.  I just had an u/s today for my 4th pregnancy.  It showed two sacs...one empty, one with a perfect baby measuring 10 weeks.  When my Dr. first showed me, it didn't really sink in.  But as I've had time to process it, I'm feeling kinda sad.  Realizing that at one point he/she was alive, even if just a few days/weeks.  I have a tendency towards depression so I really don't want to let this bother me REALLY bad but I also feel this baby deserves to be greived for.

[MomsOfTwinGirls]

Hi all. I'm not sure this is the right forum for me but here is my story. We found out very early that we were pregnant with twins, everything was going great until we entered into the third trimester. When they discovered one of our daughters umbilical cord flow was abnormal and she was quite a bit smaller then her twin but something they just wanted to keep an eye on. As time went on we went in more and more often for monitoring.  At 34 weeks the plan was to remeasure their size and if baby B was under a certain percentile they were going to deliver as she would have a better chance on the outside then inside. at 33 3/4 weeks We had an appt on a Thursday and everything was as it had been, abnormal but not changed (for better or worse) than any other time we went for monitoring. The next Monday we went in knowing that was the day they would measure and the decision would be made on delivery or not and she had died sometime over those 4 days. 3 days later we gave birth to a small but fairly healthy baby girl and her now dead sister. So technically not a vanishing twin but she never made it. She is now 6 months old. We plan to be very open with her about her twin sister who was so close to making it but we were a few days too late. I set my username up here of course before we knew the outcome. But I am a mom to twin girls, one of them is in heaven though.