Introductions

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  • iamboysgirl
  on Oct. 18, 2007 at 1:59 PM
• Hi, I'm Andrea...
  My DH (Steve) and I have been married 12 years, I'm 41, he's 38.  We put off getting pg for many reasons... we were in grad school, we were in debt, then I was morbidly obese and clinically depressed... I now have the weight off, and we are both healthy, only to find out I have high FSH, and am in preimenopause... my eggs are old.  After considering egg donation, we agreed to pursue a private, domestic, infant adoption.
  
  We hired an attorney in June, began networking, setting up a web site, putting together money, and now we are in the middle of our home study.  DH is a pastor, and we live in a parsonage... so the house is old, and for a few reasons will not pass the Maryland Health Department inspection... so we are having some renovations done.  We hope all that will be complete by early November, so we can have the HD inspection so we can begin the social worker interviews.  Hoping the entire home study is done by January 1. 
  
  My adoption parameters are wide open... I grew up around many adopted kids, so adoption is something very familiar to me... DH is another story.  He is very adamant about having an infant (10mo or younger, but preferably a newborn), and would prefer caucasian (to look like us)... but we are open to hispanic/latino or a mix with caucasian. 
  
  I'm so glad to have found this posting board... I have been on a board for those ttc post mc (10/31/06), and am one of two moving on to adoption... i just needed more moms who are looking at life through the same picture window I am.  :)
  
  If you are interested, you can check out our web site... we are adding to it weekly... www.steveandandreaadopt.com.

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  • decatur_hope
  on Oct. 18, 2007 at 6:02 PM
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  Quoting iamboysgirl:
  
  Hi, I'm Andrea...
  My DH (Steve) and I have been married 12 years, I'm 41, he's 38.  We put off getting pg for many reasons... we were in grad school, we were in debt, then I was morbidly obese and clinically depressed... I now have the weight off, and we are both healthy, only to find out I have high FSH, and am in preimenopause... my eggs are old.  After considering egg donation, we agreed to pursue a private, domestic, infant adoption.
  
  We hired an attorney in June, began networking, setting up a web site, putting together money, and now we are in the middle of our home study.  DH is a pastor, and we live in a parsonage... so the house is old, and for a few reasons will not pass the Maryland Health Department inspection... so we are having some renovations done.  We hope all that will be complete by early November, so we can have the HD inspection so we can begin the social worker interviews.  Hoping the entire home study is done by January 1. 
  
  My adoption parameters are wide open... I grew up around many adopted kids, so adoption is something very familiar to me... DH is another story.  He is very adamant about having an infant (10mo or younger, but preferably a newborn), and would prefer caucasian (to look like us)... but we are open to hispanic/latino or a mix with caucasian. 
  
  I'm so glad to have found this posting board... I have been on a board for those ttc post mc (10/31/06), and am one of two moving on to adoption... i just needed more moms who are looking at life through the same picture window I am.  :)
  
  If you are interested, you can check out our web site... we are adding to it weekly... www.steveandandreaadopt.com.

  
  
  hi, Andrea! We have a lot in common.
  -we (dh and i)both suffered through grad school, too.
  -i have been recently diagnosed with depression. that's one of the only things i have to thank infertility for (it forced me to go to counseling finally and then they diagnosed me)
  -my dh only wants an infant. he can generally be talked into any decision...but he is just not ready for a toddler. i'm hoping **maybe for number two***
  -i used to love the ttc boards (on a different site) but i just don't fit in there....at all.
  
  so, i'm glad you're here.

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  • JSBadopt
  on Oct. 18, 2007 at 6:17 PM
• Hi there,
  I am 33 and my DH is 39.  We have been married for 11 years and can't get pregnant (we have never used BC).  We jumped right tot he ICSI process and that didn't work out.  So we started with a fost-adopt agency but were discouraged by them telling us we couldn't have an infant.  So we switched to Adopt International, but are adopting domestically, infant.  Or trying to anyway...  We are looking for caucasian/hispanic as we are caucasian and come from a VERY caucasian/hispanic town.   
  
  We have been choosen a lot, 5x's to be exact, but none have worked out.  Some bazaar things have happened to us in 3 of those, so we know it is God's hand working out details for other couples.  We pray everyday that God works out the details for our adoption, but patience is hard now-a-days. 
  
  We are with a great support group for waiting families which really helps.  They have been a God-send! 

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  • fostermominpa
  on Oct. 18, 2007 at 6:25 PM
• Hi I'm JoAnn  (48) And Hubby (40) This Is My Second Marriage.I Have 2 Bio Children From The First Marriage. They Are Grown And Married .When We First Got Married We Talked About Kids We Both Wanted Them But I Couldn't Have Anymore Due To Medical Reasons So We Got Into Foster To Adopt.There Are Some Many Children In THe System That Need Loving Caring People.At THis Time We Have 4 Kids A 7 Yr old Boy And A Sibling Group A Boy 4 yrs Old A Girl 2 1/2 And A 16 Month Old Boy. We Are Looking To Adopt All Of Them. Right Now The 7 Yr Old Has Been With Us For 2 Yrs And They Are Looking To TPR. We Had 2 Hearings So Far The First One Mom And Dad Showed Up As A Happy Couple Even Though Dad Hasn't Been In The Picture For Over 2 Yrs.Well The Judge Told Them They Each Need A Lawyer, Second Hearing Dad Is A No Show So Once Again We Wait. WE Hope With This Sibling Group It Will Be Quick And Easy, But We All Know How That Works With The County.

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  • jengreg
  on Oct. 18, 2007 at 6:59 PM
• Hi I am Jennifer I am 29 and my husband is31.  We are hoping to adopt an infant.  We have been matched twice but both bm changed their minds.  We are hoping this wait will be over soon.  We have gone through IVF 4 times and got pg once but lost it at 10 weeks that was just last year my body needed a break from the meds so we moved on to adoption.  I have wanted to adopt since I was 12.  I can't wait for my dreams to finally come true. 
  
  
  Jennifer

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  • mamamorton
  on Oct. 20, 2007 at 12:22 PM

• Hi ladies!
  I am Robin--37 and dh is 38--we have been blessed with 2 wonderful bio children--a girl 9 and boy 6--we have tried to have another baby--we had a miscarriage at 18 weeks-- and then 3 more earlier miscarriages (all before 10 weeks) we went through every test and injectibles and IUI's to even get pregnant--they never could find the problem--I have always wanted to adopt--dh wasn't as excited--but he has come along way--we have completed our homestudy and were actually called about a potential match--once I received the profile I declined to pursue--just didn't seem like the match for us--we are really wanting to adopt a biracial (aa/hispanic) newborn boy--we are a mixed ethnicty family and feel this would be best for our family-- I know it will mean having to wait most likely because of being specific on race/gender.  I think this group is a great idea! can't wait to read all the adoption success stories!!

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  • wmw2007
  on Oct. 20, 2007 at 10:45 PM
• Hi, I'm 36 and my DH is 35.  We have 2 bio children, a son who just turned 15 and a daughter who is 12.  We have been waiting for almost a year to adopt through Catholic Social Services and are also licensed foster parents.  We are really looking forward to the day that we have another child in our family, and are open to either gender and any race.   So far the wait has been long and depressing, but I am trying to keep my head up - not sure how much longer I can do it though!  It will be great to talk to others who are playing the 'waiting' game.

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  • Hoping2Adopt
  on Oct. 21, 2007 at 2:18 AM
• Hey girls! I always struggle with intros but here it goes...I am Maryanne! (Imagine a valley girl voice and a hyper cheerleader for full effect....although I am neither...) I am 29 (for a couple more months), and have a great husband and a five year old daughter. I love to laugh, and I do it often. I am a really open minded person, and love to offer advice even if you don't ask for any.  :) I  have been married for eight years and have had infertility issues form the beginning. I was blessed to get pregnant with our daughter after trying for over two years.Shortly after her birth I found that I will not be able to conceive again. We have been riding the adoption roller coaster for just over a year now. We have been matched twice, and both times the natural moms have changed their minds after giving birth.  I often think about the path I am on. I definitely want more kids, but I have no regrets and am very happy in my life. People often feel worse for me than I do. I have found, as most "infertile" ladies have, that people don't know how to respond when they find out I want, but can't have more kids. I get the "I am so sorry" comment a lot. Fact is, I am not sorry. I loved being pregnant, and if I could I would have a bazillion more kids on my own...but I can't and I am totally fine with it. It is what it is, and since I can't do anything about it, I choose to be happy regardless and I choose to move forward with faith. God has a different plan for our family, and I am excited (regardless of how) to be a mom again. I feel honored to be a mother, and look forward to counting and kissing more tiny toes. Waiting is truly the hardest part, but I feel at peace and comforted in knowing that I am not alone. I am a totally optimistic person, and not easily discouraged. I know we have little ones waiting to join our family and am excited to share this journey with you all.Thanks in advance for your support and courage! I look forward to getting to know each of you!
   :) Maryanne

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  • MamaTT
  on Oct. 21, 2007 at 9:04 PM

• Hello, My name is Michelle, I am 36 and my DH is 37. We are HS sweethearts married for 11 yrs. but together since,... HS. We started our marriage unsure if we would have children. I think we both always knew we would it was just not the priority in the early days. After being married for 2yrs we started TTC with no results. We both have infertility issues and found getting pregnant stressful so we would stop for periods of time and go back to the drs. for the drug treatments. We never actually got to the point of IVF, we came close to AI but the day we were sch. to go I couldn't, I knew in my heart that was not going to be the way we became parents. At that moment I realized that being pregnant was not the goal any longer, that desire had faded for me long before, what did not go away, wanting to be parents. We took a couple of months to research and absorb our decision. Last November we were thrust into a very hopeful adoption situation. A friend of my sisterinlaws teen daughter was pregnant and considering adoption. We soon after met with our adoption agency here to start the homestudy and paperwork.We were set to go meet her a couple months later and the day before going she said she couldn't let a family so far from her adopt her child, she was seeking an open adoption.We understood and moved forward.We had another close adoption with an agency and unfortunatly that situation did not work out for us. We are now with an agency in TX that we are very comfortable with going on 8 months. We chose this agency b/c they do a lot to protect the adoptive parents and birthmothers.We will not know we have a match until all BPs have TPRd, we will then be free to go and get our little girl (caucasian,african-american,latino,asian,we have no race preference). I wish everyone here the best of luck and look forward to getting to know you all and supporting each other.

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  • AMOM2B
  on Oct. 23, 2007 at 9:07 AM
• Hi, my name is Chris. My DH and I have been married for 5 years, but have known each other 13 years!!  We tried for 4 years to get pregnant with no luck. Our last option is/was IVF and I have decided I have had enough!!
  
  We did a lot of research on adoption agencies, most of them in VA, and went to a meeting here in VA, but have decided to use an agency in PA. We sent in our application  just over a week ago and our references have already been contacted!! We are hoping to adopt and infant. We are very excite about this process. We prayed over the decision and we are very at peace it with. 

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