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on Oct. 16, 2007 at 12:42 PM
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hey, since we're all new, i thought it'd be a good thing to let each other know who we are.
i am 32, my dh is 34. we've been trying to have a baby for at least two years. we were about to do IVF and it got delayed a couple of times. Then we went t an adoption seminar and decided that adoption was a better fit for us than IVF. The rest is history.
We are committed to an open adoption.
We are adopting through Catholic Social Services, which is a quasi public agency. They only work with infants.
We have said that we think a caucasian or hispanic infant fits with our family. (we live in the deep south, and NONE of my relatives are non-causasian). I am olive-skinned, so i think a hospanic baby could pass as ours.
We just decided that while we couldn't care less what the ancestry of our children is, we'd prefer that they not have a sign over their head that says "ADOPTION." Although, i am VERY torn about this, b.c i know at least ten families who adopted across race and couldn't not be happier nor have more well adjusted kids.
So, that's my story, what's your?? 
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- by on May. 28, 2008 at 11:51 AM
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I am in search of a couple looking to adopt a baby girl in Kansas City MO preferably Independence or Grain Valley, Lee's Summit. (this general vacinity)
It would be an open adoption so that the grandma could have access to see the child at different events. The grandma does not and will not interfere with the child's adoptive family. Just mainly not lose track of the child and get pics. Maybe attend a sporting event or other activities as a friend of the parents. Not let the child know she's the grandma unless the adoptive parents wanted that.
I don't know exactly how this forum works but you can write me at
fastest2@aol.com.
The baby is due July 10th. HURRRRRY!
Dari Justice
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- by on Aug. 8, 2008 at 8:28 PM
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Hmm...not sure it's okay I'm here. I notice everyone else is married. I'm 36, single, and currently going through the wait for a domestic newborn adoption. It truly is difficult, isn't it? Since I don't have a husband, I am going through this alone - (as I realize I will be doing for many things!)It is nice to find this place to communicate with others who know what I am going throughl
I wish all of you a speedy wait and the answers to your dreams.
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- by on Aug. 10, 2008 at 6:30 PM
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Hi, I am 28 married to a wonderful man who is 30. We have been lucky enough to have two children of our own. We have two boys. We have always wanted to adopt and we are so excited to be going through this process. We hope to give a child a very loving and stable home.
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- by on Aug. 12, 2008 at 8:49 PM
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good luck! just don't ever let your gard down till you sign those adoption papers.
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- by on Aug. 12, 2008 at 8:58 PM
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Hi
Can i just tell you that if you have a family in the foster care system please call now do not wait. Call and tell the foster system who you are and that you are family and you care what happens if you want to e-mail me i can tell you more about this. cinderalla5@aol.com
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- by on Aug. 12, 2008 at 10:13 PM
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Since I remember I always wanted to have a lots of kids. When I was 17 years old,( young and restless), always talk about the same thing, with my cousins, friends and to my parents.
First, I dedicate myself on geting a good education, I wanted to be a professional, a good roll model for my kids.
After graduating from high school at 16 head right away to the university, couple of years later end up with my major in School Psychology (always wanted to be sorrounded by kids).
My first job, as a young adult (I was 21) can't be in any other place than a school. YES, a pre-school.
Later on, a larger school, I was a Kindergarten teacher.
Meanwhile, still thinking about having my own children. Years passed and nothing happen, NO children.
After, trying fertility treatments, 9 IUI's no luck.
Then I focused myself on getting my Master Degree, which I got it from Salamanca University (Spain). And still childless.....
NOW, we have decided for adoption....to suddenly realize that it's harder than I thought!
Agency FEES are scary, they really are!!
I honestly don't understand why we have to spend so much money in obtaining the baby (who's already in need of a loving arms), instead of using it in providing him/her a wonderful life and future!?!
We are praying everyday for a "birthmother" to contact us thru this wonderful web group.
I think we should be praying together as a group heading for the same goal....adoption!
Still have hope to be contacted by a "birthmother"......
Marcia -Ysa Vasquez....
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- by on Aug. 21, 2008 at 10:28 PM
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Hi everyone, My name is Lisa. My hubby & I have been married for 6.5 yrs now. We have one beautiful bio-daughter named Haley. About 2.5 yrs ago we decided to try for baby # 2. Needless to say, & much to our surprise, that was not such an easy task. We waited a yr before going to an RE. Found out I have ovulatory disfunction. We were hopeful that the fertility treatments would help us add to our family. Unfortunately, they did not. We stopped short of going through IVF in April. We both felt that it was too much to take on at that point. My husband has always been open to adoption. Me, on the other hand, not so much. That is until recently. My desire to have another child is much greater than caring where that child came from - meaning bio or through adoption. And our daughter wants so desperately to be a big sister. Currently we are exploring international adoption through China. The process is very overwhelming but I'm confident that the Lord will lead us in the right direction and open doors to show us the way - whether it be natural, IVF or adoption. I wish each one of you blessings as you travel on this journey.
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- by on Sep. 9, 2008 at 7:50 PM
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Dh and I have just started the adoption process with Catholic Charities and are getting ready for licensing as we speak. We have finger printing and physicals this Thursday. I am 36 and Dh is 35. We have been TTC for 6 years with a miscarriage just last year.
I'm new to this group and site, and thank you all ahead of time for accepting me as a member and all of the support you have to offer!
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- by on Oct. 1, 2008 at 11:18 PM
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We have a lot in common!! My husband and I are adopting a domestic boy. We finished our paperwork, profiles and home study in August.
I would like to talk with someone who is going through the same things as we are if you are interested.
I can't resist getting cute little outfits each weekend to try and distract myself.
We have been presented 3 bmom's but turned down 2 due to situations we weren't comfortable with. (this is the most soul searching experience of my life)
I hope you are having some luck!!!
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- by on Dec. 19, 2008 at 10:33 AM
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Hey Guys!
My name is Sandra, dh and I have been married for 18 years. TTC for many of those years sadly with no success. We live in FL on the coast. We are waiting to adopt and been waiting offically for 2.5 years.
Yes, this is the longest wait of our lives!
God bless you all, I hope your wait is short!
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