Our book has been viewed over & over- but we're not getting picked

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  • gr8day
  on Feb. 26, 2009 at 11:44 PM
• Do they tell you every time your book is shown? Maybe you can tell them that as long as the 'opportunity' meets your criteria (for example, we told our agency we are open to any gender, age 1 - 4) then the agency should just show your book and not tell you about it until you get picked. That way you don't get your hopes up everytime your book is shown...
  
  Just a thought.
  
  Debbie

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  • wmw1971
  on Feb. 27, 2009 at 2:14 AM

• I wish I had some words of wisdom....I don't, but I do understand completely how you feel!  My husband was sure we would have a very short wait (because who wouldn't choose us?!?!?!), so much so that we put off starting our adoption journey for about 6 months because he wasn't quite ready.  Now we have been waiting over 2 years, the first agency we signed up with showed us many times - it is devistating to get the call saying another family has been selected - over and over again.   We are now working with a different agency, and a couple of referral services.  Just last week we received an email letting us know a bm had selected a family from a different referral service - I, as usual, really thought this may finally be the one.  It is so hard not to take personally, and I have been told the same thing as you - it will happen when it's right, our profile is great......   I don't know how long you've been waiting, but for me it has actually gotten easier to wait.  

  Best Wishes to you in your journey ~

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  • jamesandtiffany
  on Apr. 25, 2009 at 3:38 PM

• Unfortunatly, we're having the same problem... Please look at ours and let me know if something's wrong with it. It's online at our web site. Thanks, Tiffany

  Tiffany - http://www.freewebs.com/jamesandtiffanyadopt

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  • 2ndtimewish
  on Apr. 25, 2009 at 4:38 PM

• How long have you been waiting? I know how hard it is and also in many ways, how random.  I think it is just like pregnancy or even invitro. There are some couples who have luck right away and some wait forever.  I know that isnt much help...

  Personally, I would rather know every time I am being shown. I find it so much more helpless when you dont know if you are being shown or not. If you have confidence in the agency that you are with, that is half the battle also.

  Hang in there.

    

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  • Alpine
  on Sep. 22, 2009 at 9:32 AM

• My husband Sean and I had the same issue with almost feeling rejected.  My problem was more that when we didn't hear anything from our agency it made things worse because I was afraid they had forgotten about us or we were one of "those" difficult adoptive parents.   It's crazy how your mind plays with your emotions with adoption.  So here is my answer:  You just simply have to wait.  (I wish I had better news).  Sean and I were just contacted on Sept. 11th about a baby boy and now we are adoptive parents!!!!   Just simply wait.  Our biggest help was prayer during our waiting time.  Ohhh yeah... and sleep as much as you can!

  Good Luck to all of you still waiting.  Sean and I waited 1 year and 5 days!  It WILL happen!

  Much love and understanding!
  

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