Ok ladies I really need the help. My husband was home from April 23-May 8 during that time I found out that he was cheating on me. He gave a story about how this lady got beaten by her military husband and that he was ordered to watch her and be with her. LIE. Next story is that he was seeing her because I had to move back to my house city for my health. He doesn't care for my health and life but what he needs its all about him. what he needs. All my stuff was not packed tight and 4 expense things got broken and all his military memoriblia was packet tight and safe.
He said because I don't show effection. Ok I have an illness and my hormones are all mixed up not like they where 9 years ago. I have been through 8 delployments that is only one year together. Moved to CO twice for his career. My kids had to give up their friends for him too.
And now I found out he is cheating on me and with some lady that isn't even good looking. Plus his facebook page he is on interested thing where he is looking for a girl. I posted on his profile that he is married and to stay away from him.
I was told by my sister to start the procedings. So where does a military wife start with divorce procedings. Who is the SO and how do I get a hold of them? HELP!!
I would find a lawyer who knows about military divorce and go from there. Good luck and hang in there, things will get better!
I would call the free hotline number for Jag. They have someone who can answer your questions to see if they can help you out. If they can't i would also call Peterson AFB to see if they might help you out. If that doesn't work I would contact Colorado judicial system to see if they can point you in the right direction!!! good luck Mama!!!
I wouldnt rely too much on his superiors.... they arent as tough on infidelity and adultry as the military leads you to believe. One of my husbands SGT's has a live in mistress that everyone knows about and nothing.... one of his fellow soldiers went AWOL with his mistress for two weeks in Vegas and nothing happened when he finally returned. My husband has been having affairs for 3 years now and I have brought it to their attention several times and all they do is try to talk me into just dealing with it. The military doesnt really care. If you are ready to get out JAG will just tell you they cant really help you and recommend you find civilian representation while they will fight all out on your husbands behalf. Most of the time they wont let you get a divorce untill they put you through marriage counseling where they will again try to convince you to just deal. If he is in agreement to get a divorce and you have no interest in alimony or spousal support and dont have any kids to complicate things try to leave the military out of things. I dont remember where I saw it but there is a site where you can file for military divorce in Colorado all online if it is just a simple cleancut uncontested divorce. (In my case my happiness takes backseat to being able to be a stay at home mom for my daughter so I just stay put for now)
I'm not sure where you are out of or the command that your husband is in but you might want to think about seeing the IG. what he is doing is against the UCMJ and he can get is deep shit about it. As for his command they also need to be reported because of their lack of attention. Oh and the almony and child support is out the roof when it comes to the military. And he can't miss a payment because they take it right out of his check every month. I had to do the research when I found out my husband was unfaithful. Funny enough thats how I got threw to him. Thank goodness we are okay now. I hope things get better.
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- shelly312007
on May. 15, 2011 at 11:50 PM