My boyfriend and I have a great sex life. Very passionate. The sex is not the problem. He does state that I do wear him out, that he does not have the stamina he used to. He is 39 and I am 46. He does have an issue if we have sex a few hours after the first time he usually has a hard time or can not get off. This does cause some frustration. He states that it has nothing to do with me, it is just his body not cooperating.
It is afterwards when going to sleep and during the night. I always curl up with him afterwards to fall asleep. I don't always fall asleep. After awhile he turns on his side and starts to pull on his penis. Sometimes he is snoring and other times he starts to moan. I have confronted him on this and he states that he is not masterbating. We have gotten into fights because of this. I state that he is moaning and touching himself and he states that he is not. He says "Why would he masterbate if I am right there with him."
I have told him that I don't mind if he masterbates in front of me and states that he does not masterbate at all. ( I can not believe that this is so) but he is adamant about this.
This has made me very uncomfortable and not sure how to handle. Sometimes I just lay there with my back to him to see how long it goes on and other times I curl up behind him and he stops. I even make the statement that I will go into the other room and he says no.
I think he does this to relax and fall asleep but will not tell me so. I wake up in the middle of the night and sometimes feel him doing it then also.
Has anyone else ever run into this and if so, how do you handle it.
I love this man very much and I see us having a future together. This one thing is driving me crazy. I don't want to bring it up to him again because he gets very upset with me.
I have a question that I want you to answer for yourself at the very least...Why does it bother you?
This is my personal opinion on the matter...If he is masturbating, there really is nothing wrong with that, is there? He's not cheating on you by touching himself, and it is by no means an insult to you or your perfomance or abilities in the bedroom. It is simply self pleasuring. He very well may not be masturbating, men touch themselves...period. They move stuff around, it's a guy thing, and I don't know if we women will ever understand it. Is there really any harm being done when he touches himself is what I think you need to decide.
As far as him having difficulty climaxing the second time, I would think that is pretty 'normal' - and I would bet there is even a scientific explanation for it. If it bothers you or him, why don't you have him try Passion Parties Pure Satisfaction Unisex Enhancement Gel...It's an all natural topical gel that you apply to the head of his penis on him and the clitoris and vaginal opening on you, and it increases the intensity and frequency of orgasms. You can order it on my website, www.passionate-moments.com, or you could earn it for FREE by having a Passion Party, simply contact me, Carla, Tracy, or any of the other consultants in this group and we can find you a consultant in your area.
HTH and have a passionate day!
Your Passion Consultant ~ Kelly
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on Mar. 21, 2007 at 1:01 PM