My husband, who has two children from a previous marriage, and I have been together for five years and have recently decided to try to have a child of our own. We started talking to the kids about it a couple months back to warm them up to the idea and met no resistance - if anything some excitement. However, recently my husband and I have started taking steps to prepare for a possible pregnancy. My husband was talking to his daughter (12) the other night and brought up the idea painting the baby's room and his daughter got extremely upset. She told her father that she doesn't want us to have children and that she doesn't want new sibling, even though she has a younger brother already. She even went as far as to tell her mother that she does not want to visit while I am pregnant. I can not help but to be a little upset about the whole situation. Not in a personal way, but just as an overall concern. I hate to see her upset. Her father and mother do not have the best working relationship so I have always tried to make every effort to help keep him close to both of his kids. I know how extremely important the father-child relationship is to all of them. Her father and I have agreed that we will continue to try to have a child, but I wonder how we might best approach the situation with the kids, especially her, to make them more open to the idea. I do understand how they could feel threatened by the idea, as would any child expecting a younger sibling, but to such an extreme?
I am open to all opinions/advice.