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Just need to vent.....

Posted by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 9:25 PM
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Hello Ladies...

I visited my in-laws this past weekend......  UGH!  I just wonder when I will no longer be treated as "one of the kids" OR even worse as "a teenage mom".  I mean, I'm 26 years old with 3 children.  I had my 1st daughter when I was 16 years old.  All 3 of my kids have the same father.  We have worked SOOOOO hard to have the things that we have & love all 3 of our kids to pieces.  When will my in-laws see that?  When will they  STOP using us as the "bad example" for all of the teenage kids in the family?  I just don't get it!  I understand that we shouldn't "advertise" teenage pregnancy & we DON'T by any means!  BUT, WHY ON EARTH would you say IN FRONT OF MY 10 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER "Don't be like Joe & Stephanie, look at all that they have been through, since they had Mackenzie so young!"  I mean, what is that saying to my little girl? ----->  (You were a burden to us! ?!?!)   UGH!  I am just SOOO frustrated!  I just want them to step back for a second & look at all of the sacrifices we've made so that Mackenzie DOESN'T feel like she was a mistake or a burden to us!  Anywhoo......  Thanks for reading!  Makes me feel better to get it off of my chest!  :)

Stephanie

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 9:25 PM
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wells75904
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 9:31 PM

That sucks...I wouldnt put up with it, I would say something, now....my parents had me young, and the family never let them forget it, I grew up thinking I was a horrible mistake and my parents sacrificed so much for me, and how much better their lives would have been if I had never came along...it wasnt a good feeling, put a stop to it NOW. I would tell them if they cant stop it they cant come around, its not fair to her

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robe739
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 9:38 PM

Thanks!  I will consider confronting them.   It is just difficult, because my in-laws emind me of the parents on that show "Everybody Loves Raymond".  They have this way of turning the things you say around & making YOU feel bad, like you were the one who did something wrong!  LOL!  I know, they're crazy!

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That sucks...I wouldnt put up with it, I would say something, now....my parents had me young, and the family never let them forget it, I grew up thinking I was a horrible mistake and my parents sacrificed so much for me, and how much better their lives would have been if I had never came along...it wasnt a good feeling, put a stop to it NOW. I would tell them if they cant stop it they cant come around, its not fair to her


p3rdone
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 10:25 PM

OMG that's so wrong!! How does your man feel about his family talking about the two of you that way?

I definitely would not just sit by and let people degrade me that way. If anything, look what your daughter is seeing when you don't stand up for yourself. In fact, I think you're very responsible for being a young mom. At least you're not running around every other night, neglecting your child while you go out and party (trust me, I know a few).

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