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What would you do??? Found husband porn videos on his laptop

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 4:54 PM
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Hi ladies! I'm looking for advice, insight, words of wisdom... whatever you got. Open to all opinions and thoughts.

This is what happened today:

My husband works a graveyard shift, so I took the kids out for awhile so he could take a nap. He fell asleep on my sons bed. I come home to wake him up and tell him go to our room so I can put the boys down for a nap. I pull up the covers and his underwear are down with a dirty shirt around his "junk". I say "what the hell?!?", he gets startled and says "how did that happen? I don't remember". Okay! lol. So I'm not stupid, I see his laptop is next to my sons bed and the dirty shirt that was on him is all of a sudden missing. I looked at his file history and there it was.... at least 10 videos all viewed about 20 min before we got home. Nasty videos of some cellulite butts jiggling. So it's all coming back to me now. This is the 3rd time I have made a discovery in 9 years. Right now I am disgusted and pissed he would do that in my sons bed. I don't know if this is something worth getting in a huge arguement over. I know my husband like the back of my hand and he will run circles around the subject if I bring it up. I don't know why but my feelings actually are hurt. I don't even know if I should be feeling hurt. I just don't know what to do in this situation. Do I let him look at the damn nasty porn?

So I ask: What would you do?

by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 4:54 PM
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mgnlee6
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 4:58 PM

 Sorry I have no advice. I feel hurt when I find my SO has watched it or when I walked in on him while I was preggo with our son & he was "spanking the monkey". Only thing he said to me after I stormed off was I shouldnt be mad, at least hes not sleeping with other people & he has to do something. Still like 2 years later im still hurt over it. Good luck though. *Hugs*




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sdwyer
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 4:59 PM

I think it's pretty gross that he would jerk off in your son's bed. If my husband got to urge to do anything when I'm not home he is a big boy and can walk down the hallway and go into our room. Porn doesn't bother me, but my when my husband does watch it, it's when we're watching it together and that's not very often at all. If you're really upset about it then you should tell him how it makes you feel. He should respect you enough to respect your feelings.

avgjoebabe
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:04 PM

Is your sex life with your husband good or bad? If its good I wouldn't worry about him watching porn. The point he did it in your sons bed is a bit odd, why would he be in your sons bed whacking?? If your sex life is bad and he is watching porn then you have a right to be mad or upset, I totally understand.  My man doesn't show interest in me since I've been 4+ months preggo which doesn't make me feel very good and if I knew he was watchin porn and not me I'd flip.  Hope you work out your feelings girl  :)

novachick
by Gold Member on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:08 PM
I would be very upset. I've been there before where I have found porn on the computer. It almost broke up our marriage. Well that amongst other things. I view porn as very wrong and he should not be lusting after anything or anyone. Lust is wrong and as far as I'm concerned porn is a form of cheating. I'm so sorry, I know the feeling you are having and it sux. It also sux that your husband is the one who has made you feel like that. If this has happened before and he was trying to hide it he obviously knows how it makes you feel and he basically gave you the finger and said what he wants is more important than the way you feel. That is what bothered me most when I found it on our computer after the 1st time. He knew how I had felt and his stupid self gratification came before how his wife felt. That is wrong on so many levels and very selfish and immature. I am not sure what to tell you other than hell yes you have every right to be mad and/or hurt and I am so sorry your man is treating you this way.
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xxLukesMamaxx
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:10 PM

Ewww that is gross. I would wash the sheets and just tell him not to do it in your son's bed because it's gross. That will probably make him feel bad and maybe deter him for a while.

paranoiacomplex
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:11 PM

Me personally, I wouldn't do a thing.  My hubby watching porn doesn't bother me.  I mean I'd ask him to keep it out of the kid's bedroom, beacuse that's nasty.

arose74
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:14 PM

Thanks for the quick responses. I definitely do think its gross he did it in my sons bed... he was too damn lazy to take the unfolded laundry off our bed when he went to sleep. We have sex at least once a week and we still have that spark so I know it's not "he don't want me". I'm more so thinking... "you like that?!?". A few years ago I found a charge on our cable bill for "Big Black MILFS" lol... I had to make fun of him for it and to this day he says "I was probably trying to get out of it". I just don't like secrets, especially when they are nasty ones. I will definitely have a serious talk with him when he wakes up and since he will be kissing my butt for awhile I will definitely be getting some new summer clothes! ha ha

Txmommy13
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:17 PM

Ive never been in that situation, but i know i would be hurt if he was watching porn.Just because he has a wife/gf etc to do that with, so if he wasnt having sex with me and was instead watching porn, then id be mad, and feel like i wasnt enough for him.

Barronbaby
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:20 PM
I let my hubby watch it! Sorry no advice hun. But I noticed the more I'm ok with it the less he watches.
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mommyof2_87
by on Jul. 12, 2010 at 5:21 PM
I know how u feel my husband used to do the same thing just not in our sons bed.. Then I realized as long as he watching porn and not someone else its ok with me ..he doesn't watch porn much anymore.. Some men will be men. I don't mind porn myself..just destroy the" evidence" but since your feelings are hurt tell him how u feel about it:)
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