I find it more and more difficult to not just blow up when people ask my age and reply with "You're so young!" (I'm 22) Their judgment and comments make me feel like i'm an inadequate mother, which I know is untrue, but it still bothers me. I know i'm going to be a great mom. I have a stable life, a supportive husband and a beautiful nephew that we have custody of. So why is it that this comment really messes with me?? I hate that people are so judemental. Age doesn't make a good mother, BEING a good mother is what makes a good mother. Does anyone else have this issue?
I usually say I am so young first LOL I am 26! Usually people who say that aren't trying to offend they are just speaking their mind. Don't take offense...I am sure they don't mean any harm. Unles of course they take it to the next level. Otherwise don't even worry about it. YOU ARE SO YOUNG but your right that is just stating a fact not how good of a mother you are
I use to feel that way but I guess now that I am 26 years old, it doesn't bother me much anymore. However, when I was 19 and early 20s it did! Just have confidence and hold your head high. Usually people were just shocked because I was young and doing the damn thing, lol
i sure do. it gets on my freakin' nerves. i was 17 when i had my little girl. i don't understand how that would make me a bad mom. as soon as i found out i was pregnant i knew what i had to do. if i was immature and unfit i would go get an abortion like every other sorry a$$ teen mom.
Eh, I think most people are more surprised that someone in their early 20's would be established with a family.
22 is young, no doubt about that. I was 22 and had been married 2 years when Lydia was born.
Even now at 26 years old, people are still surprised to hear that we've been married for 6 1/2 years, own a home (especially in our neighborhood), and have a 4 year old and another on the way.
Quoting kmyoung90:i sure do. it gets on my freakin' nerves. i was 17 when i had my little girl. i don't understand how that would make me a bad mom. as soon as i found out i was pregnant i knew what i had to do. if i was immature and unfit i would go get an abortion like every other sorry a$$ teen mom.
That would be aggravating...but you could always view it as a compliment :P I'd probably respond with "They, why oh why, do I feel so old?"
I'm the type not to read too much into things. I find that when I spend my time worried about what people think of me, I feel exhausted by the end of the day.
Easier said than done, I know!
BTW, your son looks healthy and happy in your profile picture...that should be the only proof you need to know you're doing an awesome job...don't mind other's unrequested judgment!
People are always surprised when they hear I have an 8 and and 4 year old. I get a lot of "but your still a baby!" or "but you're so young!" I am young, 27, but I look younger. But, I never take offense to it anymore, even if it's meant to be offensive. I am proud of the mother I am and what I've made out of my life. You should be too. If anyone has an issue with your age, it's just that: their issue:)
Edit: I should add that I genuinely don't think most people mean it to be rude, they are just surprised.
For reals, Can't I just be pregnant and have that be bad enough? PIOG
- CassieH
on Sep. 3, 2010 at 4:00 PM