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My MIL sure does know how to piss me off. (Vent)

Posted by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:44 PM
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I've had some serious issues with my soon to be MIL over the last year and a half. We had minor issues before I had my son, but things hit critical after he was born. When he was about two months old, we had to move and she offered to let us stay with her until we got on our feet. When we lived with her, every time I didn't follow her parenting advice (much of which goes against common sense, recent medical evidence/studies, and my personal parenting beliefs/philosophies) it was an attempt to provoke or spite her. Since I was younger than her I OBVIOUSLY couldn't know any better. My hours of research proved nothing! Any time I wanted to play with my baby, lie down with him, or feed him myself I was "trying to keep him from her" and being spiteful and/or hateful. And whenever my DS cried she would barge into our room and insist that SHE should take him and comfort him. Whenever DF would try to comfort DS or walk him to sleep, she would snatch DS from DF and refuse to give him back until I went out and insisted she give me back my child. While we lived with her we paid rent and bought and ate our own food.

My DF, unfortunately, was having some serious issues of his own with his mother and stepfather, and committed a little property damage. His mother got a restraining order against him, and then told me that if I didn't sign a paper stating I would be off her property in 48 hours and not come back without police escort, that she would press charges against DF. So we spent a month homeless with a 9 month old baby.

Eventually things worked out to a somewhat amicable relationship between us. DF is staying in a trailer on her property for the time being (we have some issues with our lease that we need to iron out before he's allowed to move in). This weekend we went over to her house because she was having a [belated] birthday dinner for DF. On the way to her house she kept saying she was going to do such-and-so with DS when we got there. I told her, more than once, that DS hadn't had his nap yet (DS is 18 months) and that I would be lying down with him to get him to nap before there was any playtime.

When we got to her house, she snatched my DS from me and took off with him. DF and I got our stuff out of the car and put it away in his trailer before I asked him to go get DS for nap time. MIL had already dumped out all the toys and was trying to play with him and give him junk food when DF walked in [5 minutes after we got there]. He brought DS to me, but DS was too worked up and would not nap. I had DF take him back inside to play with MIL. When DF came back out he informed me that MIL had "been crying this whole time." I asked him why and he said it was "because we 'took the baby away from her.'"

Later we went inside for the big birthday dinner. While dinner was getting made MIL told DF she needed mine and DS's social security numbers so that she could CLAIM US ON HER TAXES. First of all, lady, we've been on assistance for the last 9 months. The STATE is claiming us. Second, I am not, nor have I ever been, your dependent. Nor has my son. I am NOT going to let you use me and my son to defraud the US government out of money. Not only will YOU get into trouble (for tax fraud), but if you claim us, it's highly likely that WE'D get into trouble because it would look like welfare fraud. Then, when DF told her that she couldn't claim us, she stomped around for half an hour saying things like "Well, you're not getting any money back in taxes this year. The least you could do is let me claim you so I can get more money because I need it."

Then, after I told her the only things my son is allowed to drink are water, breastmilk, Gatorade, and watered-down juice she went ahead and, as soon as I wasn't in the room, gave him a fucking cup of milk (which makes him sick)!


So tell me, ladies, what is your least favorite thing about YOUR mother-in-law?

by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:44 PM
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becky-b
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:48 PM

 HOney all MIL go to piss off DIL trianing!!

I love my MIL now....... she is dead! Sounds heartless but it is what it is!

deathmiamore
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:49 PM
How she has her son and my FIL wrapped around her little finger. Ugh. It's always about her.
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2AwesomeKiddos
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:51 PM

Sorry to hear that you're going through that. Luckily, my MIL and I get along well. My MIL is a great lady and she doesn't get involved in my business or try to tell me how to raise my kids. I actually think she likes me more than she does my hubby! She considers me another daughter!  

metalhealthmom
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:54 PM

My MIL gives me parenting advice and i can't take her seriously because she popped out two kids before she was 21..and then left DH with her father. 

She also is catering to her boyfriends grandkids left and right in Florida, but she's never met her REAL grandson, my son, and at xmas ,when I didn't even ask her about getting DS xmas gifts she sent me this long email talking about how she was broke bc she wasn't working (bc she left her good job and her husband to move across the country to be her younger son's father after being apart from him for like 20yrs) That would've been fine...but then I saw she bought her son a new computer-he doesn't work or go to school. Or drive. Or do anything and he's 22. And her stepdaughter to be a PS3...and NOW her stepdaughter-to-be is pregnant (she hid it for MONTHS) and my MIL is all gung-ho and supportive when she told DH and I we were irresponsible when we got pregnant-even though I was 3yrs older than her stepdaughter and we both had jobs. 

sirshay
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:55 PM


Quoting 2AwesomeKiddos:

Sorry to hear that you're going through that. Luckily, my MIL and I get along well. My MIL is a great lady and she doesn't get involved in my business or try to tell me how to raise my kids. I actually think she likes me more than she does my hubby! She considers me another daughter!  

Sounds like my mom's relationship with my dad's mom. I am extremely jealous. :)

mrschelley1219
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:56 PM
Mine is making a nursery in her house for my child. We haven't even discussed her watching my kid. Which ill be a stay at home mom so there is no need for it. It creeps me out. She's got all these toys and shampoo and lotions for the baby at her house. I'm like "hello, psycho we will be needing those a lot more than you!" She hasn't given us anything for baby. That's what makes it weird to me. She is a very depressed woman and has been houndin us for a grandbaby for years. Even hounding Bil and sil after they spent thousands of dollars on fertility treatments that didn't work. Now she is acting like I'm going to hand my baby over to her to have the second its born.
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sirshay
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:58 PM


Quoting mrschelley1219:

Mine is making a nursery in her house for my child. We haven't even discussed her watching my kid. Which ill be a stay at home mom so there is no need for it. It creeps me out. She's got all these toys and shampoo and lotions for the baby at her house. I'm like "hello, psycho we will be needing those a lot more than you!" She hasn't given us anything for baby. That's what makes it weird to me. She is a very depressed woman and has been houndin us for a grandbaby for years. Even hounding Bil and sil after they spent thousands of dollars on fertility treatments that didn't work. Now she is acting like I'm going to hand my baby over to her to have the second its born.

That is... seriously creepy.

MrsLeCroy
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 10:59 PM

 My MIL is actually nice. The only thing i don't like is when i had dd i breastfed, and i was VERY shy and she wouldn't knock when she came in... and if i bf on the couch or out in the open i had a cover over me and she just didn't see the point. But other than that she's really sweet.

MommaLion316
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 11:00 PM

The least favorite thing about my mother in law is that she unfortunitaly lives down the road from me...ugh I hate her, your story sounds so much like mine lol I hate my MIL and she has literally hated me since the day we met! UGH 

mrschelley1219
by on Mar. 28, 2011 at 11:01 PM
Thank you. Everyone else tells me she is just excited and I'm being selfish. Sorry to hear your mil is a nut too. We should start a group just for women with crazy mil.

Quoting sirshay:



Quoting mrschelley1219:

Mine is making a nursery in her house for my child. We haven't even discussed her watching my kid. Which ill be a stay at home mom so there is no need for it. It creeps me out. She's got all these toys and shampoo and lotions for the baby at her house. I'm like "hello, psycho we will be needing those a lot more than you!" She hasn't given us anything for baby. That's what makes it weird to me. She is a very depressed woman and has been houndin us for a grandbaby for years. Even hounding Bil and sil after they spent thousands of dollars on fertility treatments that didn't work. Now she is acting like I'm going to hand my baby over to her to have the second its born.

That is... seriously creepy.

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