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Do you Let your DH...

Posted by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:04 PM
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I don't understand this concept... what do people mean by "letting" their husband do things... I mean what kind of relationship is it that has one or both people making rules for the other adult in the relationship...

I've seen posts about not "allowing" your DH to look at porn, or at topless women in movies, or have a FB .... the list goes on.

Can someone please explain this one? I mean shouldn't you both do what you want while keeping the other person's feelings in mind?

For example:

My DH likes to go to the strip club. Usually, I can care less. But when I'm pregnant it hurts my feelings because I feel like a big fat cow. so he doesn't go when I'm pregnant.

I have male friends, but DH is not comfortable with me going out alone with them. So, if I want to hang out with my male friends we make it a family thing. our family comes and my friend brings his wife (and kids depending on which friend it is).


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by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:04 PM
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Gastromama2007
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:05 PM
Because I wear the pants!

Syke. I hate when women say "I don't let my dh" or "I forbid my dh" if shoe was on the other foot and he forbid a woman to do anything, it's emotional abuse, but a woman calling the shots - normal? Don't think so.
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mom2twins9909
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:07 PM

Because they are insecure and afraid he will stray. They think not "letting" him do all these things will keep him from cheating.

JJC_
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:09 PM

If you have rules for your husband, you obviously don't trust him. You shouldn't have to tell your husband what he can't do. He should want to please you on his own.

alexsmomaubrys2
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:11 PM

I don't "let" my husband do anything. I am NOT his mother. I am his WIFE. We have a trusting marriage and mutual respect for each other.

Just as he doesn't "let" me do things either.

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clasater
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:11 PM
Exactly! And op like you said if I'm not comfortable with something i let dh know and i trust him to do what's right from there. And the same
For him if he isn't comfortable with something i do he let's me know and i won't do it anymore simply out of respect for eachother.


Quoting Gastromama2007:

Because I wear the pants!



Syke. I hate when women say "I don't let my dh" or "I forbid my dh" if shoe was on the other foot and he forbid a woman to do anything, it's emotional abuse, but a woman calling the shots - normal? Don't think so.

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ColeParkerMason
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:14 PM

Ummm... this has been discussed over and over. To me, "letting" or "allowing" your huband to do something means you accept it. No you can't control someone, but in a relationship, there are things your SO will accept and things they will not. You have to somewhat respect those things, or the relationship will not work. I don't understand why people get so bent outta shape over "letting" and "allowing" your SO do something. It's different for every person.

MelissaBK
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:15 PM

I hate when women do this stuff to their husbands...I wish I would tell my husband he was forbidden or wouldn't let him do something...Seriously if he told me that I'd do it anyway out of spite...Last time I checked I was his wife not his mother...We both know what each other like and don't like when it comes to our relationship...We have enough trust and respect for each other that we don't have to worry about it being a problem...I have friends who do this stuff and I can't stand it...Like they won't let their husbands go out to a bar and vice versa...Just the thought of someone controlling me is a turn off...

KREP
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:15 PM
I wonder the same thing. DH and I are the same way as you and yours. We always keep eachother in mind well making choices.

I already have parents, I didn't get married to have another one.
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mommy2sebass09
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:15 PM

i dont care what he does. im not a jealous b*tch like 90% of woman. i know he aint gonna cheat an i trust him

mrsmac521
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:16 PM

 I agree with you!

Quoting Gastromama2007:

Because I wear the pants!

Syke. I hate when women say "I don't let my dh" or "I forbid my dh" if shoe was on the other foot and he forbid a woman to do anything, it's emotional abuse, but a woman calling the shots - normal? Don't think so.

 

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