I was cleaning out my car today when the neighbors 13 year old daughter
(I am close with the family) got off of her middle school bus along
with 2 boys. She had reached out to my younger sister weeks ago
confiding in her that she had given oral sex to the boy because (he
wanted it) and how she was not ready and wished she had not done it.
She also made mention that her stomach had been hurting since the act
and she hopes she is not pregnant. I need to add that fact in because
it just goes to show how uneducated this young girl is. Anyway, I
watched her walk to her house and that same boy asked who was home to
which she replied "I dunno, let me check". She proceeded to let the boy
in since no one was home, close the blinds and shut the door. Instantly
my heart dropped. I felt I HAD to do something. I was well aware it did
not concern me but I had to do something. I tried to contact my sister
who the girl seems to be closer to but she couldnt be reached. So I did
Me: KNOCK KNOCK
Me: Is your mom or (moms boyfriend) home?
Me: Lets go, your coming to hang with me at my house.
Girl looks shocked
Me: lets go, he needs to go!
Girl:oh ok (says to boy) you have to leave
I go back to my house and she comes over. I said "Are you allowed to have boys in the house alone?" She replied no. I began to lecture her on how pretty she was and smart she was and how this kid could care less. I touched on how she needed to love herself first and doing those things is not loving herself. Blah blah blah I touched on the whole mom/sister lecture along with some sex/pregnancy info and stds just to shock her.
Alot of people may not agree with what I did but at 13 if I cant prevent a baby from having a baby I will do it. I had my daughter at 19 and that was struggle I cant imagine being 13! I just cant seem to put myself in her place. At 13 I was still playing with dolls. What happened to our young girls? When did dolls and barbies get replaced with oral sex? When did Kmart matching 2 piece outfits turn into Victorias Secret yoga pants with sexy written on the butt? Why are after school specials that taught lessons now tv shows with equally young girls making out with boys? My daughter will be 9 in September and with the girls the way they are right now I am terrified.
Girsl are not taught that they will only be treated the way they LET someone treat them. They are not taught that attention is not in between your legs. We need to let our daughters know that they are beautiful and they control every move they make but can not always control the outcome of a bad decision.