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should i tell him? advice please!!!

Posted by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:47 PM
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So there is this new guy at work and since he started working there I developed a crush on him. We work graveyard together along with a few other new people who were in training with him. A couple of the new people know I like him. Well I invited everyone for drinks after our shift one morning (we get off at 6am which is first call in our casino) and the guy I like offered to go. Then he had to cancel cuz his "bitch of a gf" needed him home. That was the first I'd even heard he had a gf so I was shocked. Well since then I kinda stopped pushing the issue of having drinks after work but then last night he said he wanted to go Sunday morning and make it up to me and get me a couple drinks. I said ok then later in our shift he starts talking about how he is getting ready to end things with his gf cuz they have a bad relationship and she isn't very nice to him. So my question is, should I tell him over drinks that I like him, or just leave it alone?
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MichasMama
by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:49 PM

 I think maybe not tell him at this exact moment? because if you really do like him, you don't wanna be the rebound girl. know what i mean? maybe just be there as his friend for now and see where things go.. but don't push.

GirlWSlingshot
by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:49 PM

I would keep a little distance til he ends it with his girlfriend. If he isn't man enough to tell her it's over before he has a new girl lined up, he'd do the same to you.

But that is completely just my opinion. You have to do what you feel comfortable with.

nellyb118
by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:50 PM
I would leave it alone until he ends his relationship. It would be awkward if for some reason he didn't feel the same way & since he is still in a relationship he can't really act on any feelings towards you.(or at least he shouldn't)
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kleigh24
by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:50 PM

 I would just be honest with him, tell him before you knew he had a gf you wanted to hang out with him and  ask  him if you guys can do something once he's single if he does break up with her. If he doesn't know your interested he might break up with her and meet another woman fast I'm sure there's tons of single girls working at a casino

meganhead
by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:51 PM


Quoting GirlWSlingshot:

I would keep a little difference til he ends it with his girlfriend. If he isn't man enough to tell her it's over before he has a new girl lined up, he'd do the same to you.

But that is completely just my opinion. You have to do what you feel comfortable with.


Monarch101286
by on May. 21, 2011 at 11:54 PM
Thanks ladies. I definitely don't wanna be a rebound and I don't wanna be the reason they break up. The other new people know he is in an unhappy relationship and have told me that before. I just don't wanna be the reason things go bad, nor do I wanna ruin our friendship cuz we all love working together. I am afraid though that he isn't gonna figure it out for himself that I like him, cuz guys are pretty oblivious to that stuff lol.
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Monarch101286
by on May. 22, 2011 at 3:09 AM
So he just texted me on his last break that he broke up with his gf and he doesn't know if he wants to get drinks after work. But he said he'd fill me in later about the break up. Poor guy.
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Mrs.Murray27
by on May. 22, 2011 at 3:11 AM
This.

Quoting MichasMama:

 I think maybe not tell him at this exact moment? because if you really do like him, you don't wanna be the rebound girl. know what i mean? maybe just be there as his friend for now and see where things go.. but don't push.

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Melissa_anne
by on May. 22, 2011 at 3:15 AM

I think you should just see how things go during drinks and if they seem to be going well maybe tell him at the end. 

kngarber
by on May. 22, 2011 at 3:25 AM
Well first and foremost I highly don't recommend dating anyone you work with. Two I would be completely turned off by his attitude towards his girlfriend. Three never get involved with someone who is already involved....no matter how bad they say it is because bottom line they are still going home to that person and you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. And four...never have your first 'date' as drinks. That is just my opinion.
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