My baby is 1800 miles away and I'm being called an "incompatant mother"

[m.riley]

My husband returned from a 12 month deployment in Afghanistan much changed. A "religious skeptic" and depressed with a TBI and PTSD. We have a 5 month old living 1800 miles away with our parents because of my husbands...condition. I'm looking for advice and support?..My hubby is not emotionally stable. If I went to NY to be with my Princeling, he would not survive here alone. He's active duty Army. He's not in treatment because he's rocking still...he's in counseling but that's it. I still face-time with the baby almost daily. I refuse to let my family fall apart! If I left for a bit, my hubby would most likely divorce me or kill himself or something else. He's not well. I love him but I love the baby too. I made a vow! In sickness and health!!! I wasn't looking for critiim, but for advice or support. You think it's easy to leave my child behind? Hell freaken no! But I will not destroy this family. In a few months, we plan to fly the baby and my mother-in-law down to us...

[Gabeys_Mommy]

It's haRd to imagine this scenario, but at the same time I can't imagine being away from my kids.

[moniagee]

Wow! You're a strong woman! I don't think I could do it!

[CabinMommyNH]

God bless.

[BV88]

Girl do what you gotta do.

Good luck... Such a hard thing to go through.

[TC00]

I think you're doing the right thing, I think you need to be talking to his co though.

[NVL0707]

I would never leave my child for ANYTHING.

[H.E.Smama]

*hugs*mama! I won't vote bc that's not something for us to decide. You have to do what is best for your family.

[Shy_Dia]

i think you're doing the right thing. in sickness or in health.. your baby is fine; he's enjoying some grandma and grandpa loving and spoiledness that only comes from the grands... right now, your attention needs to be on your DH and it cant be on him if you have your kid there. not sure what teh Army offers, but definitely get him as much help as possible and remind him that he's got a strong woman by his side.

[XoXomommaXoXo]

Maybe he should go into a physic ward? He might need some extra help.

[OliviasMommy611]

I don't understand ,