I think i want to start cutting my mother off... she is acting selfish and not a mom

[xMizMom2Bx]

I've been having problems with my mom since the past weeks.

When I argue with my man she gets into it and even if its not me who is causing the problem she still comes at me and yells at me like she knows its always me starting some things.

The other day my fiance' and i were arguing and she comes into our room and started to yell at me and start to come up to my face and my fiance' comes and gives me my 5 month old son and walks out of the room, and when he walks out my mother tries to put her hands on me AND tries to take my son away. I told her how i feel and she is the one who told me to stop holding things in and tell her everything and that she got my back !

The next morning, I feel a bit better after the horrible drama that happened the night before. I come out with the baby to the kitchen where she is at and she starts making these rude comments like "Im making everyone life miserable," also making comments like giving me a hint to move out when she knows my situation of moving out.

We had a dead line to move out by feb 1, but than my step father comes to me and tells me i can stay here until i can get my own car, get a job, and than save money to get our own place, all we need to do is pay for the light bill, and buy groceries with my fiance food stamp which is 200 a month. We agreed and we thought itll be a good idea. But than my "mother" starts making these comment like she wants us out now (We can't go anywhere, espicially into an apartment after being denied 2wice because of my fiance' background record, and i cant put the apartment under my name because i dont have a job) also she rubbs it to my face about my fiance' "look what you got yourself into, you see the man you choose." always trying to put me down.

Even when i have a very bad day, and drama with my man and her, she stays making these comments to put me down even more. Didn't she say she got my back? im her daughter. Why is she acting like these towards me? She does have another daughter who is 9 years old and treats her like a baby.

SHE DOESN"T EVEN ACT LIKE A HALF OF A GRANDMOTHER TO MY SON. She only holds him for maybe about 5 minutes than gives him back to me. Everyone that is ee who is a grandmother and i see how they treat their grandchild is not even close to what my mother does.

Yesturday, My fiance' and i were going to walgreens to get our baby teething medicine when he gets off work. She told me to take my sister, i didn't mind but than i ask her to watch her grandson because i really didnt want to take him out in the cold. She looks at me and tells me "no, he needs to get out too, you havent taken him out all day" are u serious? its cold outside, i just brushed it off and took her "baby" and our baby to walgreens.

Today, I had plans to get a pedicure which I am past due. I want to look and get pretty for valentiens tomorrow. She called me step dad from work and told him to tell me to take care of my sister because she is sick. (She is not really sick, she is just coughing, and her throat sore) I told my step dad, i had plans to get a pedicure once my man gets off work and he stays and watch the baby. I dont mind, but i will be gone for about an hour or so...my man can watch her. Than she tells me step dad( As you can see she is not talking to me, she is sending her "messenger")

something that she wasn't sopose to tell him, because she is the one who said she got my back and for me to tell her how i feel. She goes and tell him why am i going to do stuff for valentines if im the one who said i dont want to be with my man anymore and i want to leave him and such and such. (I told her that when she came and attacked me because of the drama, and i told her how i felt about my relationship but ofcourse you got the good and the bad) I got so mad when my step dad told me what she told him. And she is the main one who talks to much SH** about my step dad that she wants a divorce. wtf !

I go and call her and i asked her..you dont want me to get a pedicure???

And she interupts me with an attitude and she tells me "Look what im going to tell you right now.." i interupted her and i told her im tired of you mistreating me, putting me down, i dont need you help. She hangs up on me, i called her back, and she picks up the fone and hang up.

Are u serious? Im done with her !!

 

[Gastromama2007]

you do need her help.
grin and bear it until you are financially stable enough to take care of yourself and your child.

[StarryRain]

I bet if you stopped getting pedis and other silly luxuries, you'd save more money for your own place, car etc and have time to get a proper job, since your relationship is self admittedly on the rocks.

[MommySwiggles]

So you can go and get pedicures and such but you can't afford your own place to give your child a less toxic living environment? I think you need to reevaluate your priorities.

[Courtney610]

Agreed with the ladies above me.

[Meg2011425]

I agree, you can always do it yourself or maybe even let your 9 year old sister help. It's hard. I've lived with my parents as an adult. Now I pay my bills but I still have to have help with transportation because I can't drive. Just grin and bear it.

Quoting StarryRain:

I bet if you stopped getting pedis and other silly luxuries, you'd save more money for your own place, car etc and have time to get a proper job, since your relationship is self admittedly on the rocks.

[nikki32230]

Yeah what they said.....

[wilesmomma]

I think you need to stop worrying about getting your nails done and get the hell out of there. You are an adult and need to get out of your moms house. I don't blame her for wanting you out.

[StarryRain]

Let me add, too, that your son needs a mom who will show him how important he is to her, not that her own appearance is more highly valued. You don't want him to grow up as a self absorbed jerk by example, or to develop insecurities.

[MommaOfThree789]

Wow.. Stop the luxuries and save. Twenty bucks here and there adds up!

[xMizMom2Bx]

Girls Girls Girls....

I never get a pedicure, its just once in while i do, its my mans treat for me to get it done. He said i deserve it. I can't get my own place, i am not working. My man is the only one working and we already have money saved, we are just waiting for my income tax to get my car than i start looking. Its not like i get my nails done all the time. Its been almost over 6 months i havent gotten anything done, including my hair !