IS there any moms who dont have a lot of family support??
Im turning 25 years old and my husband just turned 23. We been married for four years. We have two children(5 and 2) and we dont have any free time. We are always with the kids and if we go out, we do it individually. Unfortunately, im the one who has todo everything with the kids. they are a hand full. i f i have an appt or clean or do groceries, i have to do it with them because my husband works m-f 8-5pm. i work pt and 2nd shift.
My husband is one of those guys who thinks that hes work is more than my work at home and my pt work at the hospital. He s not romantic or thoughtful at all. i never got anything for anniversaries. he doesnt celebrate holidays. so i feel unappreciated because of those things. he lets go out if im having a bad day. i jsut say im out and i leave but thats just not enough for me. i dont want to get to that level anymnore.
I only have two "real friends" and thei parenting experience is totally diff from mine. they have thier mother who is the mother of their kids. they only have thier children on the weekends"full time" and they act as if they have it together. thats gets me so frustrated because they see me going off the wall and act as if they can handle it better than me- if they were on my shoes, they wouldnt survive one day.
how can i help myself and my situation. i want to be happy and handle my situation as it is now.
any suggestions??????
Breathe mama...with the cleaning can the kids help? Put them to work or let the play quietly while you clean. Dd3 sorts clothes dusts and likes to help vaccuum. Then shell color me a picture or watch cartoons. Do you work out? Church? Tell your hubby you need an hour every cpl days. Go for a walk or go to a coffee shop. Talk to the workers there they know a lot of things going on in town and stuff. Try meetup.com....find a moms group let the kids play and get a mommy minute. Guys just don't tgink its necessary to be romantic. Were here why do you need roses? Talk to him amd tell him that you are feeling unappreciated. That a thanks babe wld help. And smtimes they hv to be shown like kids...thank him for helping w dishes or picking up his clothes. Take a cpl minutes to cuddle...give him the look even tho you can't at the moment...it seems
like more work for you but it may pay
off in the end. Hope that helps
As previous post said happy mommy=happy kids/ household:)
yeah, we don't have any family to help watch our daughter either, i am longing for a night alone with my dh, we had one date since she's been born. Just try to stay positive and ask your dh once and awhile to help you out, everyone needs a break now and again, i am sure you are doing wonderful as a mom, give yourself a break,
"What you do makes a difference. We should never simply write ourselves
off and see ourselves as the victim of various forces. It's always our
decision who we are."
For reals, Can't I just be pregnant and have that be bad enough? PIOG
- jnm11108
on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:10 AM