Baby #2 is due in July. My husband and I had a discussion about when the baby gets up at night and i told him hes gonna be getting up with the baby too(he never got up with our daughter when she was a baby.) This rule would basically pertain to if the baby gets up more than once each night. My husband seems to think he shouldnt get up AT ALL with the baby just because he works,no matter how much the baby wakes up. I tried to tell him that while he does work, I will be the one home all day, unable to nap because I will have a newborn that will take short naps and a 3 yr old that doesnt nap at all,therefore I need my sleep just as much as he does,so I think we should take turns at night.
His job is an alternating shift (4 days working,4 days off with working days alternating between 7am-7pm and7pm-7am every week. I understand that I really have no choice but to get up with the baby when he works nights.)
He seems to think that what he does it more important than what I do so I should be taking on all the work with the kids, along with cleaning, paying all the bills and running all the errands.
I didnt create these kids by myself and after giving birth I think the least he could do is help.
And we are using formula so there is no reason why i need to get up everytime for feedings.
Did your S/O refuse to get up with the baby at night?
Did you come to a comprimise?
EDIT: The women that seem to think i should be the only one getting up with the baby are the ones that in my opinion, dont see woman as equal to men. if you did you would think that the parenting should be shared equally. getting up with the baby is part of parenting.he works,so do i. i just dont get paid for keeping my kids taken care of and taking ALL the responsibilities for the entire household.