I took my daughter to her annual check up yesterday and did it with the soonest appt I could get, which meant not with her regular dr. Bc she has a bad cough for 3 mons now Sh'es only 3
anyways she did still hav to conduct a regular standard check up which meant doing certain routine things. She wanted to look at my daughter's vagina and when my daughter became uncomfotable with that idea and dint want her to look, didnt even take her pants off, hte dr. aid "that's okay, we dont hae to, I don't care".
As a parent I am offended a dr. wouldn't care that my daughter didn't have a rash or whatever. I know my daughter has nothing to hide and nor do I but to show she did care would have been nice. She didnt say it with any malice or any irritated way, do you think maybe I am over-analyzing her? And taking her sentence out of context? Or would you be urked too?she was also a mom as she revealed with children my daughter's age, and she was very attentive with my daughter andmy cocnerns about her persistent cough, listening to her lungs more than once and answering all my questions. as a concerned mommy.
The plan I have is medical, which means the state pays for our healthcare, and maybe doctors are a bit more lax with medical patients I suspect. This was also at a clinic in a low-income area and majority were probably on medi-cal.
anyways thinking back on it, how can a pediatrician utter those words, "I dont care
? If you're getting paid your salary, you better effing care. Thank god my daughter isn't one, but what if she were a sexual abuse victim, another supposed child potector fails her, fails to see her need for help, anothr supposed child advocate failing her overlooking her?
And as a mom I am offended. She didnt say it meanly or rudely, just calmly. But still it urks me. Am I putting too much on it, do you think she just meant "I dont care? as in I dont think it's a big deal if we dont look" or "I dont want to make her uncomfortable so I dont cae" but to me it still souns like 'I dont care if this child has a possible yeast infection, or is a closet sexual abuse victim" etc...none of which my daughter is, but how would she know that??
My daughter had that too. Her doctor found that around 4 months old. And he always took the diaper off when he did the "hip" check...
Quoting NESmith63:
My dd had a labial abrasion. Which meant her labia was stuck together. She had to have it surgically opened. How would we ever have known that if the dr didn't check? If you trust your dr then you will know its not sexual. What if they had something that you didn't notice as a problem but to a trained eye the dr was able to notice it. Especially when potty trained and the parents don't see their vagina like they did when they changed diapers.
Quoting Baby8901:
A dr shouldn't want to look at a 3 year olds vagina. That made me extremely uncomfortable. And that you, as a mom, are mad because she said (what I understand to be) "it's ok, no need to make your dd feel uncomfortable."
If/when I have a dd, the dr will NOT look at her vagina!
Maybe it was a bad choice of words... You let a cough go for 3 months? Does she have asthma? allergies? whooping cough?
? my son is three and just had his exam. they checked his boy part area and his butt as well. its a fast look over and completelynormal. you're making it sound like they are some pervert for doing a regular exam.
Quoting Baby8901:
A dr shouldn't want to look at a 3 year olds vagina. That made me extremely uncomfortable. And that you, as a mom, are mad because she said (what I understand to be) "it's ok, no need to make your dd feel uncomfortable."
If/when I have a dd, the dr will NOT look at her vagina!
Quoting LML1:My daughter had that too. Her doctor found that around 4 months old. And he always took the diaper off when he did the "hip" check...
Quoting NESmith63:
My dd had a labial abrasion. Which meant her labia was stuck together. She had to have it surgically opened. How would we ever have known that if the dr didn't check? If you trust your dr then you will know its not sexual. What if they had something that you didn't notice as a problem but to a trained eye the dr was able to notice it. Especially when potty trained and the parents don't see their vagina like they did when they changed diapers.
Quoting Baby8901:
A dr shouldn't want to look at a 3 year olds vagina. That made me extremely uncomfortable. And that you, as a mom, are mad because she said (what I understand to be) "it's ok, no need to make your dd feel uncomfortable."
If/when I have a dd, the dr will NOT look at her vagina!
Quoting mommyajay:
My sons doctor looks at his penis at his well Check ups. I figure they are checking to make sure everything is ok
Quoting sreichelt26:
I'm more concerned as to why she wanted to do a pelvic exam to begin with.
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on Mar. 3, 2012 at 1:30 AM