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My brother found out he's sterile.... all they want is a baby *sad vent*

Posted by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 11:45 PM
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My brother and his wife have been together for over 8 years. Theyve been trying for a baby for at least six of them. Thry always figured that because my sil is diabetic that the reason they were having problems getting preggers was something with her health. Over the last year they started doing more testing. They had previously did some tests on my sil, finding nothing. Her OB then told her he wouldnt consider talking about it anymore until she regulated her sugar levels. (jerk) Anyway, they finally tested my brother, and most likey he was born sterile. He is heartbroken. They bought a huge 5 bedroom house three years ago, and have already started a nursery.

Recently, after a bunch of crap they had to go thru, my sil was implanted from a sperm donor. They have tried this twice already, nearly $2000 each try... No success. It pains me, because I cant imagine not being ale to have children. First, you have to come to turns with the fact that if you do have one, it wont be genetically yours. Then, the stress and worry trying to make the sperm donation work.

They have discussed adoption, but that too is a pricey pricey option.

I feel so horrible for them. They are such amazing people, and they deserve to have a share their love with a child. Its sad to me that there are so many pregnant women who dont want or cant care for a baby, decide to give up for adoption... But agencies make the process so expensive ($20,000 plus). I wish there was something I could do. My son is my whole world, I would do anything for him... They deserve that too.

Im just sad!
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 11:45 PM
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by Courtney on Mar. 4, 2012 at 11:49 PM
That is sad. :(
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by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 12:48 AM
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That is so sad! I hope they are able to have a family someday soon whether it's adoption or something else. My friend and her dh are unable to get pregnant and they adopted their son at birth and it cost about $27,000. They are now waiting to adopt another baby. Your brother and sil sound like great's so sad that there are people out there who would be amazing parents but can't have kids. 

by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 12:52 AM
That really sucks. Adoption is great though. I hope it works out for them.
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by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:03 AM
Have they thought about fostering? Or do they want to be able to keep the kiddo?:). I'm truly sorry for them i can't imagine knowing you won't be able to have a biological child. It seems like something they truly wanted. I hope with whatever path they choOse its a peaceful filled with happiness.
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by Katie on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:05 AM
Tell them to look through county adoptions. My cousins were both adopted that way. The only costs were home inspections and parenting classes. my uncle is also sterile.
by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:05 AM
That's so sad :(
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by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:06 AM
Why don't you offer to be a surrogate? Id do it any day for my sister.
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by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:08 AM

I'm sorry :( That has to be hard..... 
Right now DS is at risk of becoming sterile and I can't do anything because of his dad >.< 

by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:08 AM
idk much about this subject. im googling some information but heres a story about a procedure and the thing that caught my eye was this guy was told he was 100% sterile and after this procedure they ended up having ababy.

Even Men Who Don’t Make Sperm Can Have
In 1985, a young couple, both 22 years of age, from
New York, came to see me in St. Louis because he
had azoospermia (no sperm in the ejaculate) and
needed a testicle biopsy to see whether he had an
obstruction that could be corrected with microsurgery.
In those days, we always prayed that the biopsy would
show normal sperm production, because our success
rate with microsurgery to correct obstruction in male
infertility was over 95 percent. But we could do nothing
at that time for couples if the men weren’t making
sperm at all.
His biopsy revealed what we call “maturation arrest.”
This means that the early precursors for sperm
production were present in the testicle, but there was
no continuation of sperm production beyond these
early stages. This man was by all definitions 100
percent sterile, and it was my unfortunate job to
explain to this otherwise wide-eyed, cheerful young
couple (who were looking forward so much to having a
family) that they couldn’t have children.
But this couple never gave up hope. Ten years later,
they came back after they had heard about ICSI. By
now we were having exciting success in using ICSI for
men with extremely poor sperm counts, and in men
with irreparable obstruction requiring retrieval of
testicular sperm from a blocked but otherwise
normally functioning testicle. But could it possibly work
for men who were apparently not making any sperm at
all? This determined couple helped us embark upon a
new theory with startling consequences.
When I had looked back to my research from the early
1980s on quantitative testicle biopsy, I discovered a
phenomenon that had previously eluded my attention.
Even in men with zero sperm in the ejaculate, and
apparently no sperm production, if one looked
carefully throughout the testicular specimens, an
occasional sperm precursor could be found that had
the same number of chromosomes and the same
basic appearance as a normal sperm. Based on this
finding, this couple was our first case of a man who
appeared to be making no sperm but in whom we
were able to find just a few sperm “hiding” in his
testicles. We injected these hidden sperm into his
wife’s eggs, and normal fertilization occurred. They
had a happy baby girl who is now a healthy young
woman who is having her own children now.
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by on Mar. 5, 2012 at 1:11 AM

=[ That's horrible

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