WEve been having some problems with him behavior wise but we've been going to therapy and working on some things so its getting better. Our biggest problem is with the neighbor next door.
He is 6 months older than Shawn and I want him to distance himself from the enighbor. He gets to pretty much do what he wants to, is left home alone with his 2 younger siblings all the time, is allowed to play rated M and 17+ games which ds is NOT allowed to do.Plus hes really bad to my ds. He talks badly about him to other ppl and makes fun of him to his face all the time which I dont like.
Heres my question.... he disobeyed me tonight after I specifically told him not to be in their house. I gave him a few minutes b/c I knew he was in there but wanted to let him come out of their house on his own. After 20 minutes I sent the siblings to their house to tell them he needed to come home. they come back and say that he told them not to tell me he was in there and ran out their backdoor to hide in the woods. Im not dumb, I knew he was there. I gave myself a few minutes to calm down so I wouldnt go off on him for not listening(Im working on my anger issues when he disobeys me).
He comes out of the woods about 3 miunutes later, I see him, tell him to go home and in his room bc he disobeyed me. I was calm and collected. He was like"What? I didnt do anything". Trying to play dumb. I told him he had to go to bed and was grounded all week bc he did what he wasnt supposed to. It was 7:53. His bedtime is 9:20.
I originally told dh when I called that he shouldnt be allowed to participate in mini golf for ds2 6th birthday this thursday and that he should ahve to watch us play. Dh suggested not being able to participate in his brothers birthday party and making him sit beside us.I dont know about that but I dont know what to do, this rule he is breaking is becoming a weekly thing he does so the steps Ive taken(grounding,extra chores,taking away items) obviously dont work as he keeps doing it. He is just so desperate for friends he will upset me and DH to get their attention.
Advice? What should I do? Ive tried helping him make friends but everyone finds him annoying and dont want to be around him.