I'm going to quit...I have no other choice! **update in orange**
So I've spoken with my mom several times [more like dozens to be honest] about this and tonight we've both agreed that I should hand in my notice to quit watching the boy (Jimmy - which is my 4yo BIL) that I watch. Yes I will lose my ONLY source of income ($800/month), but it seems like every week there is something going on "did Bubby (my son) do something to Jimmy?", "why does he have this mark?", "did he fall on a toy?", etc., etc., etc. Jimmy also attends a play school 3-days a week and it's seems like that every/any mark he gets is my fault. My thought process - he's a boy, he's going to fall and get scratches, he's going to get bruises, he's going to bump his head. Jimmy is so very timid and Bubby is very strong willed. Jimmy will not say "STOP" if anyone hurting him, he will allow any kid to push him and he won't do anything back AT ALL.
I just want to say, that yes there have been times when my son has caused a mark on Jimmy, but it's also been vice versa. Either it is by a toy, running and falling, tripping, bumping into something, etc. Jimmy had also tried to choke out my son when he was 17 months. I'm not saying that either is excusable; however, boys will be boys!! They (his parents, more so his mom) act as every bruise, bump, scratch, cut that is on their son is my fault...even the ones that he comes here with from over the weekend. They blame me for when we go outside and he gets a rash from the grass which he is allergic too, but he has to be outside at least once a day (per his mom), my whole back yard is grass!! So it's basically I can't win for losing.
My current situation is that I've been a SAHM since March 2010, I'm 24wks pregnant with my 2nd child (which is my husbands), seperated from my husband since November (he had an affair), in the process of a custody hearing [not until June] and then in November I will be filing for divorce. My mom and her fiance, who I am so thankful for, are paying for my legal fees and I've vowed to pay them back though once everything is settled. I am however looking for some sort of part-time job to hold me over until August (when I'm due), then get back in the work force.
Question - What would you write in your letter to them? Remember I'm having to write this letter to my in-laws (father & step-mother).