I am so frustrated w/Dh! Idk what to do at this point. Tonite we had a big falling out over how we handle our children. I have a ds from a previous relationship(10 yrs) and 2 dd from our marriage(8 &5 yrs). Our argument started when i got upset when I realized youngest dd cut up a few of my bill paying envelopes to make a pony. I got so upset bc lately both dds have been trying to do whatever they want, when they want, and not caring about other people personal property. So I ignored her artwork and got angry for destroying my property w/out even asking. Dh steps in calls me a bitch and tells dd that her pony is wonderful and creative. Fine ok, but no he goes further than that and tell her that I am mean and she doesnt have to listen to me, and can use the envelopes and scissors anythime she wants and if I say anything about it then come get him and he will take care of it. This is just what happened tonite, he is always accusing me of hating our dds and only loving ds and treating him like a king. I disagree, I feel like he thinks his dds can do no wrong and blames my ds for everything. I dont allow dh to punish ds except for grounding him off of the xbox. And ds is not scared to tell me what dh does when Im not lookiing so dont worry about that. But our parenting styles are so very different! I dont spank but I take away priviledges and toys. He thinks spanking is completely ok bc "his mother did". He thinks the way his mother raised him is the only way a child should be raised and everyone else is raising a bunch of pussies. When we 1st got together we seemed to be on the same page but as Im getting older I am learning and changing a few things as I see fit, he on the other hand refuses to think his mother could be wrong or even trying something new. Its not just our parenting styles but he also doesnt seem to care about our relationship the way I do. I have to beg him to spend time w/me and if he does spend time w/me, its only for 1 tv show or 2 if Im lucky. He spends 6+ hrs on his xbox a day and when I ask for his time he gets annoyed and says Im bitching. I have told him point blank before that I love him but if he doesnt want to spend time w/me someone else will. I only said it to make want to spend more time w/me but it totally backfired. He yelled at me to get the f*** out if Im not happy w/the way he is. And good luck finding anyone to take a bitch like me. But I am honestly a very good, kind hearted person. I am always smiling and offering my help to anyone I possibly can w/out wanting anything in return. I am a kind genuine person and I think I am a wonderful wife. I take care of the kids, make homecooked meals every night, clean, and take care of all errands, go to school, and work as much as my job allows. He on the other hand does the bare minimum in everything except gaming. I just dont know what to do anymore, Im beginning to feel like maybe my marriage may be a total loss.