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SAHM has your DH ever made this comment ?

Posted by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:03 PM
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DH and I were having an argument over how much money he spends on stupid things and it got quite heated since I have hardly left the house in the past year let alone spent any money on myself since we have a special needs child. When out of the blue he made a comment that went a outlet like this " It's my money I earned it , I can spend it however I want , I don't bitch when you spend money so why bitch at me ? I think you have it pretty easy for being 23 and being able to sit at home all day. " I was so pissed I didn't know what to say other than fine I won't manage YOUR money anymore and you can pay the bills on time in full each month and make sure all of our sons needs are met. He attempted to back track after that but I'm still stuck on why it chaps his ass so bad to provide for his wife and son and why it bothers him when i say no you cannot go to the casino and blow $60 because you have 45 minutes of free time or when I get pissed when he spends $140 on new boots when I haven't seen a salon in months! Anyone else ever hear this from their DH ??
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by Silver Member on May. 1, 2012 at 4:05 PM

i've heard similar.

or the "well, i work all day, whats your excuse for not getting things done?"  Umm...we have a 5,4, and 3 yr old, 2 dogs, 7 chicks and a TON going on lately.   There is only so much 1 person can do in a day!

by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:08 PM
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I occasionally hear similar, I usually just tell him he has to pay me minimum wage for 8 hours of daycare and housekeeping while he is gone. 

by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:09 PM
I have said to my husband I work all day and clean so it like having two jobs and most of my money goes to bills and his needs if he wants a game I try to let him get now I have not bought new shoes in a year he got them tax came all I saw from tax money was two books
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by Bronze Member on May. 1, 2012 at 4:11 PM
I hear it from my parents all the time. If there is one thing that I missed, I get told that I "sit around all day so it should be done." I do everything around the house because they allow me to stay home. I manage their bills, just like you, making sure everything is paid on time. Because of me, alot of their bills are a few months ahead/paid off!

But what makes me the most mad is when my mom treats me like her servant. Go get me a drink, go get me some dinner.." If I question it, or say no, she snaps back with she worked all day.
by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:13 PM
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Nope never heard it from Dh. He always tells me that he feels like what I do during the course of a day and still finding to time to be a good mom and wife is hard work. 

by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:13 PM
I'll have to try that one out ! If he only knew what one week in my shoes was like !
by Jessica on May. 1, 2012 at 4:13 PM
No but me staying home was a mutual decision so he has never questioned what I spend and as long as all the bills are paid I don't care if he spends money.
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by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:16 PM

 Awww  hugs!

by Ruby Member on May. 1, 2012 at 4:16 PM
Bahahaaaa! No, my husband is smarter than that...... He knows what a frightening woman I can be. ;)


In all seriousness though, in our almost 7 years of marriage he has maybe said that once, at which point I reminded him that I worked my ass off to support our family while he went to paramedic school so that he didn't have to.
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by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:17 PM

hahaha tell him on a whole weekend or any two consecutive days off, that the kids and house are his. and then take off with his wallet and spend like $200 on just you. and then when and if he complains about the money tell him you are only following in his footsteps and maybe he should be change his ways if he doesnt want others to be the same way. then if he calls you about your son(s) then tell him he their father and a grown man and he should know what to do, then hang up. and watch him beg for forgiveness when you return from your weekend get away. oh and when you com ehome everynight say "whats for dinner and why isnt it ready yet? and then ask what the kids did that day and if hes missing anything in their normal routine just ask him why he didnt... then go down the list of things you do every day with them. =] this happened to me ONE time and i did this and he has NEVER said anything like that ever again infact now he comes home and says"baby sit down and relax let me fold the clothes , why dont you let me get dinner, ive got the dishes you go ahead and give trent his bottle fro bed, if you want i can give him his bath so you can sit down and watch TV or do your nails or shower or whatever" every day he does this when he gets home. and before he goes out he sais to me" hey is it ok if i..., the guys want to come over but i know trents asleep is it ok or should i go to their house or would you rather me stay home tonight?" it doesnt matter if hes going out with the guys or to the gym or to his parents house or even if he has to stay late at work he asks if its ok.  he used to say stuff like "you have it good" and then "hey we are doing this today so get dresses and get trent ready" while he just sat and watched tv all day. then the money thing came up and i flipped and did that weekend thing aand its been a 180 now for about 3 months.

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