Here is a little back info. My bio dad wasn't in my life the way he should have been. He moved to Indiana when I was 9 and I heard from him on my birthday, Thanksgiving and Christmas. When he came back to Denver to visit, he did get me and my half siblings together to go the movies and stuff but I still feel that is less than a part time dad an unacceptable. I do still resent him for leaving me with my drug using and abusive evil mom so he can drink and party all the time. We didn't talk for years, we are now on speaking terms. We talk every few months.
Well, my step dad, well not really, he didn't marry my mom just common law. Anyway, my step dad means the world to me and is a big part of the reason I am the woman I am today. My step dad will be walking me down the aisle when I get married because he has always been there for me and didn't abandon us when my mom left him and got back with a man who beats her ass everyday and got her started using drugs.
My bio dad has always wanted a son and has all girls. My son is his first grand son and when I found out I was being blessed with a son that I have been praying for, for years, he had the balls to ask me if I would give my son his middle name Lydell! I felt he didn't deserve that because he wasn't there and just told him we went with something else. I am tempted to tell him the reason we went with something else just so he will stop mentioning it every single time we talk!
I asked my step dad if I could give my son his name, his last name is Carter but I wanted my kid or kids name to all start with a K like mine. He was very happy and I told him how much I love and appreciate him so he said of course! I said with a K, he said that's ok and was still sooo happy.
So, my son's name is Karter Chance. His middle name is chance because my miscarriage 6. Years ago was the most devastating event of my life and I feel God is giving me a second chance to be the best mom I can be!
I talked to my bio dad today and he is still like you should have named him Lydell. What would you do?
Would you continue to ignore him? Tell him why you didn't use his name and hurt his feelings and hope it's never brought up again? Tell him why we chose Karter and where it came from? Or something else?
He doesn't know where we came up with Karter and doesn't know I still talk to my step dad. It is not a secret or anything, just not something we talk about the very few times we do talk. Sorry it's so long, just tried to include some relevent info to help you all better understand my situation. Thanks so much for your help. I am so tired of hearing about this and my son is only 3 weeks and 2 days old today. I will post a pic in replies since I am mobile.
on May. 2, 2012 at 12:07 AM