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Posted by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:23 PM
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Is it realy that hard to not smoke around your kids in the house or car???? I'm so tired of. Y boys coming back from their dad smelling like an ashtray. He only has them for 8 hours on Saturday!! He knows one has asthma and my youngest always gets a cough ugffgh. So selfish! ! I don't know what to do! :(

sO I email his face book and said..............

"just in case you dont understand the danger of second hand smoke and why i ask YOU not to do it around the kids...THIS is WHY...

What is secondhand smoke?
Secondhand smoke (SHS) is also known as environmental tobacco smoke (ETS). SHS is a mixture of 2 forms of smoke that come from burning tobacco:

•Sidestream smoke – the smoke that comes from the end of a lighted cigarette, pipe, or cigar

•Mainstream smoke – the smoke that is exhaled by a smoker
Even though we think of these as the same, they aren’t. The sidestream smoke has higher concentrations of cancer-causing agents (carcinogens) than the mainstream smoke. And, it contains smaller particles than mainstream smoke, which make their way into the body’s cells more easily.

When non-smokers are exposed to SHS it is called involuntary smoking or passive smoking. Non-smokers who breathe in SHS take in nicotine and other toxic chemicals just like smokers do. The more SHS you are exposed to, the higher the level of these harmful chemicals in your body.

Why is secondhand smoke a problem?
Secondhand smoke causes cancer
Secondhand smoke is classified as a “known human carcinogen” (cancer-causing agent) by the US Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), the US National Toxicology Program, and the International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC), a branch of the World Health Organization.

Tobacco smoke contains more than 7,000 chemical compounds. More than 250 of these chemicals are known to be harmful, and at least 69 are known to cause cancer.

SHS has been linked to lung cancer. There is also some evidence suggesting it may be linked with childhood leukemia and cancers of the larynx (voice box), pharynx (throat), brain, bladder, rectum, stomach, and breast.

Secondhand smoke and breast cancerWhether SHS increases the risk of breast cancer is an issue that is still being studied. Both mainstream and SHS contain about 20 chemicals that, in high concentrations, cause breast cancer in rodents. And we know that in humans, chemicals from tobacco smoke reach breast tissue and are found in breast milk.

But a link between SHS and breast cancer risk in human studies is still being debated. This is partly because breast cancer risk has not been shown to be increased in active smokers. One possible explanation for this is that tobacco smoke may have different effects on breast cancer risk in smokers and in those who are exposed to SHS.

A report from the California Environmental Protection Agency in 2005 concluded that the evidence regarding SHS and breast cancer is “consistent with a causal association” in younger women. This means the SHS acts as if it could be a cause of breast cancer in these women. The 2006 US Surgeon General’s report, The Health Consequences of Involuntary Exposure to Tobacco Smoke, found that there is “suggestive but not sufficient” evidence of a link at this point.

Research is still being done, but women should be told that this possible link to breast cancer is yet another reason to avoid being around SHS.

Secondhand smoke causes other kinds of diseases and deaths
Secondhand smoke can cause harm in many ways. Each year in the United States alone, it is responsible for:

•An estimated 46,000 deaths from heart disease in people who are current non-smokers
•About 3,400 nonsmoking adults die of lung cancer as a result of breathing SHS
•Worse asthma and asthma -related problems in up to 1 million asthmatic children
•Between 150,000 and 300,000 lower respiratory tract infections in children under 18 months of age, and lung infections resulting in 7,500 to 15,000 hospitalizations each year
Surgeon General’s reports: Findings on smoking, secondhand smoke, and healthSince 1964, 30 separate US Surgeon General’s reports have been written to make the public aware of the health issues linked to tobacco and SHS. The ongoing research used in these reports continues to support the fact that tobacco and SHS are linked to serious health problems that could be prevented. The reports have highlighted many important findings on SHS, such as:

•SHS kills children and adults who don’t smoke.
•SHS causes disease in children and in adults who don’t smoke.
•Exposure to SHS while pregnant increases the chance that a woman will have a spontaneous abortion, still-born birth, low birth- weight baby, and other pregnancy and delivery problems.
•Chemicals in tobacco smoke damage sperm which might reduce fertility and harm fetal development. SHS is known to damage sperm in animals, but more studies are needed to find out its effects in humans.
•Babies and children exposed to SHS are at an increased risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), acute respiratory infections, ear infections, and more severe and frequent asthma attacks.
•Smoking by parents can cause wheezing, coughing, bronchitis, and pneumonia, and slow lung growth in their children.
•SHS immediately affects the heart, blood vessels, and blood circulation in a harmful way. Over time it can cause heart disease, strokes, and heart attacks.
•SHS causes lung cancer in people who have never smoked. Even brief exposure can damage cells in ways that set the cancer process in motion.
•There is no safe level of exposure to SHS. Any exposure is harmful.
•Many millions of Americans, both children and adults, are still exposed to SHS in their homes and workplaces despite a great deal of progress in tobacco control.
•On average, children are exposed to more SHS than non-smoking adults.
•The only way to fully protect non-smokers from exposure to SHS indoors is to prevent all smoking in that indoor space or building. Separating smokers from non-smokers, cleaning the air, and ventilating buildings cannot keep non-smokers from being exposed to SHS.
Where is secondhand smoke a problem?
You should be especially concerned about exposure to secondhand smoke in these 4 places:

At work
The workplace is a major source of SHS exposure for adults.

SHS is classified as a potential cancer-causing agent by the Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA), the federal agency responsible for health and safety regulations in the workplace. The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH), another federal agency, also recommends that SHS be considered a possible carcinogen in the workplace. Because there are no known safe levels, they recommend that exposures to SHS be reduced to the lowest possible levels.

SHS in the workplace has been linked to an increased risk for heart disease and lung cancer among adult non-smokers. The Surgeon General has said that smoke-free workplace policies are the only way to do away with SHS exposure at work. Separating smokers from non-smokers, cleaning the air, and ventilating the building cannot prevent exposure if people still smoke inside the building. An extra bonus other than protecting non-smokers is that workplace smoking restrictions may also encourage smokers to smoke less, or even quit.

In public places
Everyone can be exposed to SHS in public places, such as restaurants, shopping centers, public transportation, schools, and daycare centers. The Surgeon General has suggested people choose restaurants and other businesses that are smoke-free, and let owners of businesses that are not smoke-free know that SHS is harmful to your family’s health.

Some businesses seem to be afraid to ban smoking, but there is no proof that going smoke-free is bad for business. Public places where children go are a special area of concern. Make sure that your children’s day care center or school is smoke-free.

At home
Making your home smoke-free may be one of the most important things you can do for the health of your family. Any family member can develop health problems related to SHS.

Children’s growing bodies are especially sensitive to the poisons in SHS. Asthma, lung infections, and ear infections are more common in children who are around smokers. Some of these problems can be serious and even life-threatening. Others may seem like small problems, but they add up quickly – think of the expenses, time for doctor visits, medicines, lost school time, and often lost work time for the parent who must stay home with a sick child.

Think about it: we spend more time at home than anywhere else. A smoke-free home protects your family, your guests, and even your pets.

Multi-unit housing where smoking is allowed is a special concern and a subject of research. Tobacco smoke can move through air ducts, wall and floor cracks, elevator shafts, and along crawl spaces to contaminate apartments on other floors, even those that are far from the smoke. SHS smoke cannot be controlled with ventilation, air cleaning, or by separating smokers from non-smokers.

In the car
Americans spend a great deal of time in cars, and if someone smokes there, the poisons can build up quickly. Again, this can be especially harmful to children.

In response to this fact, the US Environmental Protection Agency has a special program to encourage people to make their cars, as well as their homes, smoke-free. Some states and cities even have laws that ban smoking in the car if carrying passengers under certain ages or weights.

What about smoking odors?
There is no research in the medical literature as yet that shows cigarette odors cause cancer in people. Research does show that particles from secondhand tobacco smoke can settle into dust and onto surfaces and remain there long after the smoke is gone – some studies suggest the particles can last for months. Researchers call this thirdhand smoke or residual tobacco smoke. Studies have shown that the particles that settle out from tobacco smoke can form more cancer-causing compounds.

Though unknown, the cancer-causing effects would likely be small compared with direct exposure to SHS. The compounds may be stirred up and inhaled with other house dust, but more may be absorbed through the skin or accidentally taken in through the mouth. This is why any risk the compounds pose may be larger for babies and children who play on the floor and often put things in their mouths. No actual cancer risk has been measured, but the health risks of thirdhand smoke are an active area of research.

What can be done about secondhand smoke?
Local, state, and federal authorities can enact public policies to protect people from SHS and protect children from tobacco-caused diseases and addiction. Because there are no safe levels of SHS, it is important that any such policies be as strong as possible, and that they do not prevent action at other levels of government.

Many US local and state governments, and even federal governments in some other countries, have decided that protecting the health of employees and others in public places is of the utmost importance. Many have passed clean indoor air laws. Although the laws vary from place to place, they are becoming more common. Detailed information on smoking restrictions in each state is available from the American Lung Association at

THINK that will work????? GOD i hope so. I wish I knew half of what I knew when my oldest was younger....

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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:25 PM
Sorry about mistakes I'm Mobil.
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:25 PM

Get it in the custody/visitation agreement that he cannot smoke around them. I have that in mine since my kids dad smokes, he's fine with that agreement. He can only smoke outdoors.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:30 PM
I've tried. He isn't in agreement with it. Were going thru divorce so ill keep pushing the issue
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:34 PM
My mom had it in the custody order that my dad couldn't smoke around us. He always smoked outside, wasn't a big deal to him.
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:42 PM
Well apparently its a bid deal to him bc he's continuing to do it..ugh
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 9:00 PM

Have the judge include it, its a health hazard especially to your child with asthma.

Quoting ProudMamma1982:

I've tried. He isn't in agreement with it. Were going thru divorce so ill keep pushing the issue

by on May. 5, 2012 at 9:05 PM

record a convo with him about smoking around your kids and take it to your lawyer

by on May. 5, 2012 at 9:07 PM
I would ask him politely to stop smoking around them.
I smoke, but not around my kids. I go outside, or if its too cold, I go out the guest room window. When they are in the car, I don't smoke. I ask others to do the same.
My mother in law doesn't and she makes whoever does to smoke on the porch. And my parents... They're somewhere else. I'm tempted on a hot day, and the windows being down but I just can't. Not with my 2 month old in there.

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by on May. 5, 2012 at 9:18 PM
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Your husband smoking around the kids (especially the one that has asthma) is endangering their lives! Second hand smoke is MORE dangerous than getting the actual smoke! The only thing I would try is talking to him and letting him know that you DON'T want him smoking around your kids and if he continues to do so then he might have to have supervised visitation.

by Katie on May. 5, 2012 at 9:21 PM
Quoting ambermarie2006:

Take in documents stating he has asthma. My sil had to do this because my exbil didn't think his smoking was an issue or caused asthma problems. smh!
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