Sick to my stomach. I can't believe something like this happened to my son *long* *Update!*
I had a friends kids over at my house while she was in the hospital. Her youngest (4) did not want to sleep in the same room as my son (5). He kept saying he didnt want friends anymore and that he wanted to go home. I figured he was just wanting his mom and really wanted to go home so I slept downstairs with him (him on one couch, me on the other). A couple days after she got out of the hospital, she told me she figured out why her son did not want to sleep in the same room as my son. My son had asked her son to taste his penis. I freaked the fuck out!!! After I calmed down and could remain calm I called my son into my room and had a talk with him. I asked him why he asked her son that and he shrugged his shoulders. I asked him if anyone has ever asked him to do that and he started to fidget really bad and shift his eyes to everywhere but mine and said he was feeling really nervous. I told him that he would not be in any trouble but it was really important that he told me the truth. I was going to ask just one more time. So I asked him again and he told me that yes, his ex step brother would ask him to put his penis in his mouth when he was over at my ex's. At that point I sent him downstairs to play for a bit and broke down crying. My dh came in and I let him know what my son had said. After I could calm down again, i told him I had to ask more questions, that he would not be in trouble, but it was very important he told me the truth. I came to find out that his ex step brother would ask him at night, when they where in the bedroom at night. My son never did it. He said that the other boy never tried to touch his penis, that he never tried to show my son his penis, and that when my son said no, he said ok. He said that the older boy told him not to tell anyone. This older boy is 13 years old! I couldnt ask anymore questions. It was getting harder and harder to keep my cool. I called his dad and told him and his dad freaked out. He is getting info for me about where this boy lives now, and we agreed to take my son to a 3rd party to talk to him so that that everything can be documented and we can open a report. His dad said that his sister never wanted her kids around this boy, so he is going to call her to find out what happened. I am so pissed, and sick to my stomach over this. I pray to God that nothing actually happened. Oh and my friend was not mad about the whole thing. I apologized profusly to her and I made sure my son knows that it is NOT ok to ask people to do that. We had a very long discussion about it. She was very understanding and is helping me get threw this.
I went to the counceler by myself today and told her what my son had told me, she said she will hold a meeting with OSI, and Security Forces (military police groups) She will invite CPS to the meeting as well. After the meeting she will call me back and tell me what the game plan is. CPS will be calling me as well and coming over. They will be going to my ex's house to talk to him and the cops will track down where R (the boy who ask my son to do those things at my ex's) is. I am just waiting now for people to start calling me.