My mom treats my older dd better than my younger dd.
And I'm sick of it. I told her that if that's gonna continue then she won't see them. Haddie, my younger dd is 1, she walked up t her reaching up wanting held saying "gramgram", my mom said " no I don't want to pick you up"...like a minute later my 2 1/2 year old, Cheyenne went to her and put her arms up and said "up please gram" and she picked her up! And haddie watched and looked so sad. She also went ridiculously crazy for older dds birthdays and for younger dds first (partys this weekend) she says "oh I may pick something little up on the way"....me to dh " on the way? What's she gonna get a lighter from the gas station?" We live in the country there no stores on the way. She always coos and ooos over cheyenne and just ignores haddie. I'm really tired of it and it will not go on any longer. My mother and I have a lot of other issues that go way back, but this crap? No. Its not gonna fly. I just needed to vent. She called today about the party and offered to buy the cake and I said okay ill go order it and drop off the decorations for it towmorrow and she said no, ill do it cause I want to pick it out and I'm only getting a 1/4 sheet.....she has a theme and I bought stuff for the cake and a 1/4 sheet isn't enough for 20 adults and 10 kids, that's what I told her and she says fine she doesn't need a cake anyways its not like she will know. WTF, she bought my oldests cake and I got a half sheet and she wanted to get a full but it was to much so I had to talk her down from it. She wanted to buy the cake for there birthdays as a "tradition" so I let her start. Well screw that idea. Gr she's just...grr.
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on May. 30, 2012 at 9:19 AM
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Jess
on May. 30, 2012 at 9:31 AM
Very. I'm so tired of it. And were ttc and she goes "why you will just have 4 to give attention to" wtheck. Really?
Quoting jsr87:That's messed up
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on May. 30, 2012 at 9:33 AM
Your mom sounds like a bitch. I wouldn't let this go on any longer.
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Amber
on May. 30, 2012 at 9:38 AM
I know a lot of grandparents pick favorites, and it gets worse with every child after that. My MIL does this. She coos over my 3 year old niece, but not the younger niece and definitely not my 3 kids. 3 year old niece can do what she pleases, but none of the other 4.
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on May. 30, 2012 at 9:42 AM
Your mom sounds horrible. My mom is horrible in her own ways. We aren't talking again because she's a liar and bias toward her first son and her first grandson. She lies about the mess in front of my dad knowing my dad would jump her butt about it of she told the truth! Im sorry. Maybe it's time to speak up and say either you treat each of the equal or I will put some distance between you and the kids. Then tell her that since she wants to treat the youngest girl like she does.... She won't be involved with the party planning process. And if she buys your youngest anything less than what she got the oldest dd.... You will also address that. Sounds like she needs to be cut off from spending time with the kids if you ask me.
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Krystal
on May. 30, 2012 at 9:46 AM
My family is like that too. Among other reasons, we don't see some of them at all and the rest only on occassion.
Good for you for standing up for your kids, favoritism is never okay.
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Jess
on May. 30, 2012 at 9:48 AM
I told her its not going to continue or she will no longer see them.
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on May. 30, 2012 at 10:32 AM
my parents pick favorites...well mainly my dad. He's all about dd1 that's it. Dd2 doesn't exist in his eyes.
My mom's favorite is my sister, and she STILL makes that obvious.
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How far is too far???
- CheyennesMommy2
on May. 30, 2012 at 9:19 AM