What's the oldest you'd consider safe to have a baby?

[CheerBugg1585]

What's the oldest you'd consider having a baby. Not just as far as health reasons for yourself and baby, but as far as keeping up with a little one. I had my DD at 22, and I don't even think I had the energy to keep up with her. Even now I'm 26 and she's 4, she wears me out! My husband and I want more, and we have to wait due to other issues that need to be resolved first, (we need to move, buy a new car, pay down debt, and secure my teaching position for next year) he suggests we wait. We both want 4 kids. He comes from a big family, (he's the middle child of 5 boys), and I love children, I've always wanted a lot of kids, he does as well. And part of me feels like I'm running out of time to have 3 more kids and have them spaced out at 3 or 4 years. What do y'all think?


Ok, so after reading a lot of the comments and opinions that you've posted, it got me thinking something I never even thought of. So far my DD is 4, and I'm 26, my DH will be 30 next month. As it stands my DD will graduate HS at 18, I'll be 40, and my DH will be 43. We'd still be bringing in money and our DD could have a part time job while in college. But how old would we be when our future kids go through college? Would we be able to help them all out with college tuition due to us looking towards retirement, my DD has a pre-paid college plan, but still. And would our kids have their degrees and out on their own by the time we retire? Or would we still have them in our house because we had them too late? It wasn't the part I even considered until now. I brought it up with my DH. He said we'll talk about it tonight when he gets home from work. Maybe he'll reconsider about waiting so long.

[moosesmom]

I wouldn't go past 40. That's just me.

[LilRed2130]

Me personally i wouldn't want to have kids past 30. And as far as being safe i'd say 35 but thats just me.

[mrscass0416]

no clue I guess it depends on the person  my husbands aunt just had her baby 2 years ago at the ripe old age of 52. It was a complete shock to her but he is healthy and happy. he is the youngest of 6 her oldest is 29. The one before this last one was a surprise as well. She had her at the age of 43. She is also healthy. To each his own I suppose. No more after 30 for me

[NoahandEliza]

I don't want any more past 39. I don't have any real reason, except that like you, I don't know if I could keep up with one. People have babies well into their 40's and do just fine though, so I think you have time. My bff's dad was 62 when we graduated HS and he never had a problem being there for her.

[lind.shep]

I won't have kids past 30. If I dont't end up with another baby before then, I will still get my tubes tied. (I am 23)

[Jaxsonsmama2009]

If we have another I want to wait until my oldest starts kindergarten. So I will be 32-33ish depending on when we start trying. I'm debating about it because that seems way too old. I for sure wouldn't go past 35 personally.

[vwd_johnson]

40...

But me personally, i'd never have a kid past 30! we did ours young, we're both 24 & DH is getting a vasectomy.

[CheerBugg1585]

That's how I feel. I wanted to have all my kids in my 20's, and just be raising my family in my 30's, not having babies in my 30's. I don't know that I would have the energy to keep up. My husband is older than me ( he turns 30 next month), he wanted to have our kids young too. It's just bumming me out. I know that there are other factors that need to be taken care of first, I just want to be able to still play with my kids. My mom had my baby brother at 33, she didn't really play with him, my sister and I had to keep him entertained (I'm 10 years older than my brother). That's not what I want. I'm the mom, not my older kids.

[mama-smurf]

Me and my bf stopping at 30. I'm 23 (number 3 on the way) and he just turned 29. Maybe one more after this if he wants another not sure.

[boshs1andonly]

I told dh I want to be done by 30, but now I'm considering pushing that back to 32 because we didn't have our first dd until I was 27 (I thought we would have had her maybe 2 or 3 years earlier). I definitely want at least one more, by the time I'm 30. Depending on how things go maybe one more after that. But I only want about 18 months between my children so that's a little easier to work with. If you want 3 more kids with that kind of age difference, I agree that you're starting to run out of time. Unless you get lucky with twins ;-p